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Gray Rock Method of Dealing With Narcissist



The above link is to the Lovefraud site where they discuss a method where you bore the narcissist/psychopath into leaving you alone.

They also advocate no contact as the best option when leaving a narcissist but in some cases that is just not possible.

I thought someone here might find the information useful.


There is life and light after the narcissist, I promise! Hugs Carrie

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About Carrie Reimer

I am a 56 year old single woman who has taken her experiences from a 10 year abusive relationship and turned them into a positive. Through my blog I share my experiences and help other women in similar circumstances find happiness and safety. There is life after a narcissist and I stand here before you as proof. Don't let the bastards get you down. View all posts by Carrie Reimer

5 responses to “Gray Rock Method of Dealing With Narcissist

  • rmblondie60

    OMG…I did this without even trying! After he and I split in May 2012, he called all the time. I would make sure that I moved away from family and friends to talk with him (I didn’t know what he was at that point). But as time moved on, I realized that he NEVER asked me how I was doing (I was broke, no food in the pantry), while he was telling me how much money he had spent on things that he and I had talked about doing for years. So…I got bored..it was always about him…I would say..Uh huh…really?..wow… The calls seemed to slow down, and he got more involved with his new supply. (Posted “In a Relationship in June 2012). He and I spoke up to the time he accused me of stalking him and his new supply…said that he couldn’t be friends with me anymore because it upset his GF, because SHE thought I was stalking her.

    Shortly after that, I decided to drive the 500 miles, get the rest of my things, Just so happened (lol) that was the day he graduated from college. My bad! Within DAYS, he proposed, and in August, he married her! Guess he almost LOST her, and had to make a grandiose gesture to keep her!

    I have not heard from him since. Even though I still suffer…..The real No Contact just began in May 2013. I like the term ennui..it describes exactly how I am feeling right now. And I understand, even though I do not want him, but the idea that I spent 8 years with him without a commitment, did EVERYTHING for him, and he turns around and marries the next woman…is why I am in this state of being at the moment. I KNOW how she feels right now…and KNOW how she will feel in the near future.


  • DanielleP

    I want to be a grey rock xx


  • julie

    thanks for posting this carrie. very helpful.


  • skylar

    Hi Lady with a truck,
    I drive a truck too!

    I’m glad you found the gray rock article useful, it’s very popular in our community of survivors.
    Since I wrote that article I started my own blog called 180rule.com. There are a lot more articles about understanding and dealing with psychopaths and other narcissistic abusers, on that site.

    I also placed the Gray Rock article on 180rule.com, so could you please change your link above to point toward it here? http://180rule.com/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/

    Hi RMblondie, I can relate to becoming non-reactive without even trying. I did that to for much of my relationshit with the spath, but still, when he really wanted to get my emotions, he knew how because I didn’t understand the mechanism. Now that I do, it’s like knowing how a magic trick is done. It’s no longer effective at inspiring awe.


  • missnadinelouise

    Relationshit!!! I love it… Thanks for posting this Carrie.. x


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