Abuse-Can Be Subtle and Deadly

People hear the word “abuse” and assume physical violence, but there are many forms of abuse. There are your run of the mill a-holes, wife beaters and cheaters and then in a class all of their own, are narcissists/psychopaths. Even narcissism has varying levels of abuse and degrees of severity, some narcissists, although cheaters and liars never physically abuse their partner and are able to hold down jobs. At the other end of the spectrum are the narcissists who destroy all who come in contact with them. It has taken me a long time to accept I was involved with a narcissist and even longer to realize and accept how truly evil he was and the danger I was in. One of the most powerful weapons the abuser has to keep the victim in the relationship is the victim’s own denial.

In my quest for answers I came across a couple who claimed he was a narcissist and she, through her love for him discovered how to “cure” him. For anyone to claim they can cure a narcissist is a dangerous game to play. As is typical of the victim, my hope was restored and I clung to any remote chance; I could “cure” JC also. I was quick to grasp at anything that indicated if I tried harder, was more understanding and loved unconditionally I could save the relationship and JC. That was almost 10 years ago, I don’t know if they are still around but you would figure if it was possible to cure a narcissist the internet would be full of testimonial about their discovery. Never think you can love the narcissist well, or if you try just a little harder to please him things will be ok. We are strong women, we tend to think we can give a little more, bend a little farther and then we find ourselves in too deep to extricate ourselves.

I read somewhere that a woman will stay in or go back to an abusive relationship as long as she feels there is something she can do to “fix” it; until she feels she has done everything she can do, she won’t leave on her own. With my experience I can only say that the longer I stayed and the more times I went back the more severe and insidious the abuse got.

With physical abuse there are often signs of abuse, bruising etc and people are much more apt to believe the victim, come to their assistance, and support them emotionally or financially.

Emotional abuse is ambiguous and hard to prove, the victim is less likely to get support and people tend to think they are exaggerating, overly sensitive or antagonizing the abuser. Society in general does not view psychological or emotional abuse as “dangerous” and feel that if the person isn’t treating you the way you would like just leave. They don’t understand the damage done to the emotional state of the victim or the potential danger to the victim.

All abuse stems from the abusers need to control the victim, whether it is physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, or financial abuse.

A narcissist at his worst will use a combination of all the above abuse tactics and can leave the victim paralyzed, unable to make decisions, hopeless, depressed and lacking the self-confidence to help themselves. They no longer feel like themselves, having lost their soul to the narcissist, they don’t even know who they are any more and have lost all trust in a fair and just world.

The most dangerous of all abuse is Ambient Abuse, (and the kind of abuse JC is so adept at) Often called “crazy-making”, or “gas lighting”, it is the stealth, and subtle, underground maltreatment that sometimes goes unnoticed even by the victims themselves until it is too late. It is ambiguous and atmospheric and very hard to pinpoint or prove; hence it’s insidious and deadly effects.

Ambient Abuse is the fostering of an atmosphere of fear, intimidation, instability, unpredictability and irritation. There is no tangible evidence of abuse but the victim constantly senses a bad omen or premonition of impending doom. It is perpetrated by dropping subtle hints, by disorienting, by constant and unnecessary lying, by persistent doubting and demeaning and by inspiring an air of unmitigated gloom and doom. Insisting the victim did not see or hear what they did, hiding personal items of the victim but blaming the victim, insisting the victim said or did certain things that the victim did not do but eventually starts to doubt their own perception of reality.

Over the long-term this environment eats away at the victim’s self esteem and their self-confidence is severely damaged. Many times the victim starts to act paranoid and highly emotional, which makes them look like the mentally unstable one and the abuser is the poor suffering soul. Some examples of ambient abuse would be withholding affection or intimacy, rolling their eyes when you express an opinion or criticizing your actions “for your own good”.
(With JC the rolling of the eyes was SO frustrating, and made me feel my opinions or feelings weren’t of importance).
(For most of our relationship he refused to come to bed, at first he always came to bed then he would stay up until 3 or 4 am, then he was coming to bed just in time to have sex before we had to get up for work, and the last few years he rarely came to bed at all. He said he just didn’t need sleep, but he would fall asleep any where and every where, he could sleep standing he’d be so tired)

There are 5 categories of ambient abuse:

Inducing Disorientation

The abuser causes the victim to lose faith in her ability to manage and cope with the world and its demands. She no longer trusts her instincts, her skills, her strengths, friends, family, or the benevolence and predictability of her environment.

The abuser challenges his target’s perception of the world, right and wrong, her judgment and offers plausible but false alternatives. JC would always say he couldn’t handle my warped perception of reality, until I questioned myself for getting upset he was seeing other women and whether I was actually being abused. By continually criticizes her decisions he makes her doubt her ability to make wise choices. With his pathological lying he blurs the lines between reality and nightmare. He constantly violates her boundaries and disrespects her values, feelings and opinions, “deal breakers” such as drug abuse, infidelity, lying and stealing become common place and she is made to feel she is in the wrong for confronting him on his indiscretions or that some how she is to blame for them.

By overreacting to the slightest mistake on her part and setting her up with demands impossible to meet he intimidates her to the point of paralysis.


The abuser gradually takes control over the victim’s freedom and ability to be self-sufficient (i.e.: their vehicle is never working, they lose their job, loss of friends and support system due to never being able to entertain or attend events because of the N) it is very subtle and done in such a way that the victim doesn’t realize what is happening until it is too late. Then they find themselves isolated from the outer world and a hostage to the goodwill – or ill will of their captor.

The abuser engineers impossible, dangerous, and unpredictable situations where his skills or knowledge is sorely needed. He orchestrates circumstances where his specific skills, connections, or traits are the only ones useful and helpful. In this way he creates his own indispensability; giving him another reason to resent his victim and another excuse to be angry with her for being needy. (JC used to sabotage my vehicle, I would have no choice but to call for his help and he would make me wait hours and make it sound like it was a HUGE inconvenience and effort on his part to help me, but acted like the benevolent rescuer when he got there. He also got me evicted from every place I lived or we lived making us homeless and me dependent on him for everything) Right up to the last day we were together he constantly told me I would never find a man who would rescue me like he always had and I believed him. The truth is, I had many men willing to help me when JC was out of the picture but my vehicle didn’t break down like it did when I was with JC either.

Shared Psychosis

The abuser creates a fantasy world inhabited by the victim and himself besieged by imaginary enemies. The enemies may be people they know, (or totally made up) these people are plotting against them, lying to them or about them, basically “out to get them, and destroy their relationship” and she is expected to stand by him, fight against these enemies, lie, and pretend. She is continually “tested” and must prove her continued affiliation and support of him.

Eventually this constant stress reduces the victim’s resistance and ability to “see straight”. (JC used to watch videos and talk about the “one world power” coming and how we would have to live in the hills, the holocaust that was coming and I became very afraid of the future without him there to protect me. He said “they” had erased files on his computer etc)

Abuse Of Information

From the first moment the abuser meets his victim he is collecting information. He will reveal just enough dirt about his past to put his target at ease so they feel safe opening up about their fears, indiscretions, and weak areas. The more he knows about his potential victim the easier it is for him to coerce, charm, manipulate and extort her. Whereas he was sympathetic when he first meets her once the mask drops he will use any information he has to belittle, criticize, discredit, and embarrass. He has no qualms using information he gleans to achieve his goals or destroy the target.

Control By Proxy

If all else fails the abuser will recruit a third-party to do his bidding. That 3rd party could be family, friends, institutions, teachers, the media, the authorities, and he uses them to cajole, threaten, stalk, harass, communicate, and otherwise manipulate his target. He controls these unaware accomplices exactly as he controls his victim and dumps them unceremoniously when the job is done.

Many narcissists do not physically abuse their victims, they are able to control them through psychological and emotional abuse which is much less likely to be detected and it’s much easier to deny and make the victim look crazy. In JC and my relationship he did strangle me once (and denied it, according to him he didn’t strangle me or choke me, he just had his hands around my neck) and he hit me a handful of times in the 10 yrs we were together. There was no need to hit me, like most women after he hit  me the first time all he had to do was come at me with his fist raised and I would back down, but near the end even backing down didn’t stop him. It was as if he knew it was ending and he had nothing to lose by not holding back.  We went several years without him actually hitting me, but like my son said, that doesn’t mean he’s changed it just means you walk on eggshells.

What we all forget as victims is: IT IS NEVER OK FOR A MAN TO HIT A WOMAN (vise versa) there is absolutely no excuse for hitting a woman unless she was coming at him with a knife. There is nothing a woman can do that justifies getting hit, he can walk away, hit a wall if he has to hit something but she can not MAKE him hit her. Another thing we have to remind ourselves of: He knows exactly what he is doing and that it is wrong, he expects you to lie about it to everyone and if someone came to the door he would stop. If he was so justified in what he was doing there would be no need to lie and IF life with you is so unbearable that he feels he has no choice but to hit you then he needs to leave the relationship, BEFORE he finds your replacement!

Narcissists control by keeping their victim off-balance, another tactic for this is to not respond to something that would normally send them into a rage. They appear unaffected by an argument and act as if nothing happened leaving the victim waiting for the shoe to drop. Have no doubt that the narcissist will get revenge; he is the king of passive aggressive behavior that punishes the victim. He will take or destroy something of value to the victim. It could be weeks or months after the incident when the victim realizes a treasured possession in missing or broken, of course the N will deny knowing anything about it. This is most likely to happen when her focus is shifted on something other than the N, perhaps a child or other family member she is concerned about, anything that takes the attention off the N. (In 10 years I had all my clothes stolen, my photos had anti freeze dumped on them, memento’s were lost, my son’s baby teeth disappeared but the container they were in was in JC’s music room, 3 vehicles were stolen, my vehicles were tampered with, the amount of hours I spent broken down on the side of the road would boggle your mind, almost weekly I would need him to rescue me, he made me miss events that were of immense importance to me, I was unable to finish my college education, every single piece of personal property I had was destroyed or stolen. I do not own anything today that I owed 14 years ago, nothing. Oh sorry, a few Christmas decorations, that is it)

The best indicator that you are a victim of ambient abuse is your gut; throughout the 10 years of my relationship with JC I denied what my gut was telling me. And I wish with all my heart that you believe me when I say; it does not get better, his apologies mean nothing, he is only manipulating you further. Get out!! Before it’s too late.

Link to a post from 2012 one year after JC and I split, You can’t be first but you can be next http://wp.me/p1wKh3-kb


186 thoughts on “Abuse-Can Be Subtle and Deadly

  1. ammyness

    please don’t use narcissism, psychopathy or any other mental illness as the cause of abuse. i’m well aware of how abusive people can be, my own mother is a narcissist and an abuser. but mentally ill people are more likely to be the victims of abuse then the perpetrators of it. narcissists and psychopaths are perfectly capable of being non-abusive people, and to use those mental illnesses when discussing abusers does two things:
    -allows abusers to use these as excuses for being abusive, whether they have NPD or ASPD or not, and,
    -continues the stigma against the mentally ill.


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      ammyness, Sorry for not replying to your comment sooner, somehow I missed it. I am sorry you have been abused by your mother but I think you are combining all mental disorders into one lump and they are all very different whether a few common traits. How do you know your mother is a narcissist? are you sure she isn’t bi-polar, borderline, ASPD? They are all very different.
      Narcissists and psychopaths are generally dangerous to be involved with, if they are true narcissists and psychopaths. Some people can have very strong Narc traits,after all we all have some narcissistic traits. All psychopaths are narcissists but not all narcissists are psychopaths, well now the verdict is out on that and they are saying they want to clump them all under the heading of antisocial personality disorder.
      Anyway, they do not have a conscience, so that in itself is a good indication of probable abuse. Without a conscience there is no empathy and without either of those a person takes what they want and does what they want with no concern for the welfare or feelings of others. That is going to end up in abuse, if not physical, at least financial and emotional abuse. They are abuser people. They know they hurt people, they just don’t care. With ASPD they don’t understand other peoples emotions so really can’t be blamed for when they do things to hurt other people but a narcissist knows full well what he is doing and does it anyway.
      They are the most dangerous people on the planet. It has nothing to do with continuing the stigma attached to mental illness, and has everything to do with warning people that these people do exist and they can not be cured and they will not change. it is matter of saving lives.
      Your reasons for not naming them as toxic and dangerous doesn’t even make sense. One minute you say it gives them an excuse to be abusive and the next you say it causes a stigma to be attached to them. That they are the victims.
      Don’t believe it, a narcissist is never the victim, he only likes to make everyone think he is.
      A narcissist will never admit to being one and if he did it would be in order to get away with something. They generally go undetected until they destroy someone and then it is too late. The only way to fight it is to raise awareness. To excuse them because they have a mental disorder is doing a disservice to society.


  2. Fran Webb

    My daughter is a narcissist and was so abusive towards me, it chills me even now to remember. My son was also abused by her but refuses to admit it now ( he saw it before) that he married someone very similar to his sister. They have now joined and made me their scapegoat. They have told me things like:
    Daughter: your are a hard perso to get to know. ( while withholding affection and remaing cool and distant to me).
    My son: you have a victim complex. ( when I try to express my feelings) or I am overly sensitive. This after being left out and treated like I am invisible.
    I don’t see or talk to them anymore. ( to keep my sanity). It still hurts because I long to be part of their lives in a healthy way and have a reciprocal relationship.


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      Fran, it is so heart breaking when it is your own children. Narcissism is so destructive any time but when it is your flesh and blood it just rips your heart out. I am so sorry you are having to go through this but you are doing the right thing by going no contact. There is no winning with a narcissist, no reasoning with them and eventually you either go crazy or go no contact.
      Big hugs to you thanks for sharing.


  3. 50merc

    I lost my gf to another guy who promised her the world because he has money and perceived stability. He is an absolute abuser his technique is to take her on trips and isolate her for 2 weeks at a time no use of cell phone or anything that can give her outside line to the world. Her family is starting to give up on her, and me and her best friend wont. I will admit its because regardless if she loves me back I am IN love with her still. I know she will need time to grieve and heal IF she ever breaks away . were just at the beginning of all this madness but I hope that the 2 of us can some how pull her out of this. as her best friend lost 7 years to the same exact type of guy . same family type same upbringing same type of abuser. sad thing is my ex did not learn from her best friend and all that time she would complain about her friend is exactly what she is going through now. Ironic…. and sad..


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      50merc, My heart goes out to you, it is very hard to watch a person you love being abused but I caution you to watch out for your own heart. It could take years for her to realize she is even being abused and then years before she accepts it and leaves. I know it is hard to understand, when she was frustrated with her friend who was in a similar relationship but no one know until they are in it what it is like. Narcissists are such good liars and so convincing that the victim is crazy, not seeing what they are seeing and twisting the truth that the victim loses touch with reality. That is why the abuser isolates the victim so there is no one to verify she is not crazy and before long his version of reality becomes her reality.
      Your involvement will be construed as a jilted lover trying to get her back, no matter what your intentions are, I think you are best to stay in the wings and be there if and when she leaves but I think any intervention on your part is going to fall on deaf ears if not do more harm than good. I recommend you make it clear you are there if she ever needs help but then back off totally. Let her girlfriend try to talk sense to her. In the case of the girlfriend she is probably the only life line your ex g/f will accept and it is crucial she remain a true and strong friend. Your ex needs someone who will not judge but gently reinforce that she is being abused and deserves better. She needs to reinforce often that your ex is not crazy and it is not her fault.
      Unfortunately anything you say will be taken as trying to turn her against the new guy and if she has any contact with you the new guy will get jealous and do anything he can to come between you two and turn her against you.
      With a previous girlfriend my ex put sugar in his own gas tank and said it was her ex in order to make the ex look like a vindictive nutcase. Also, as long as you are obviously still in love with her he will work overtime to win her love and his true colours will not show. Narcissists have to win and right now he feels in competition with you for her affections, remove you from the scene and he has no reason to put on the nice guy act and lets his mask drop revealing how cruel and heartless he really is. That is when the girlfriend is there to reaffirm to your ex that she is with an abusive asshole and needs to run for safety.
      Good luck, this will not be an easy battle to win and when she does leave she will need help, be there for her if you can and never ever underestimate how evil these soul suckers are. If you can talk to her family and explain that she needs them more than ever and to not desert her that would be great.


  4. ilo

    i am 20 years old i met my ex when i was 14 and immediately liked him he made me feel special he’s two years older than me and he made em feel so special and amazing. but he had a girlfriend and another guy asked me out i went out with him for 2 months i later found out my ex encouraged him to ask me out to see what i would be like as a gf. My ex broke up with his ex and two days later kissed me he invited me to his house i met his family he asked me out on christmas he broke up with me wen out with his best friend invited me over i stupidly went and ended up losing my virginity he broke up with the girl and on valentines day went out with me i felt so special. I did everything and anything for him i lied to my family about where i would go and i pushed away my friends to spend every moment with him. there were girls always popping up in our entire relationship but surprisingly i never heard from the x before me only once int the very beginning the girls that i heard from was the ex before his ex he cheated on her with his ex but she still appeared and his beats friend who i never met he seemed to flirt with her and he seemed to want her but she turned him down it made me sick and i sill stayed with him we went to college together where he physically abused me saying i pushed him too far that it was my fault if i wasn’t such a bitch the entire relationship i could never trust him i always had a gut feeling but no actual proof he did anything. I would find myself checking his phone he made me feel so neglected he had social media but never posted anything about me unless i begged him one time i was checking his phone and he caught me he said he hated when i checked his phone i was scared so i threw the phone to him it fell and cracked it and next thing i know I’m on my bed tucked in with bruises on me. this year he bought me a promise ring but on november 1st he broke up with me and on november 7 he started going out with a coworker i was devastated and i begged him that i would change i would do anything but he didn’t care he said she made him happy he said he could never open up to me that i pushed him too far that he couldn’t do this anymore he sent me an email that he changed all his passwords to her name and their date something he never did for me she has slept over met his family she has emailed me fb messaged me telling me she emphasizes with me and that she knows everything even things i don’t know about and that he wants to pop me in the face that he hates me more than his ex and that she knows all about the physical abuse he put me through and that its my fault for not knowing right from wrong and now I’m just lost and hurt she has sent me pictures of him kissing her while she wears my headphones and rings and he just talks bad about me she hits me up constantly insulting me and i just need help im trying to figure out if he was a narcissist


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      ilo, sorry for the slow response! Honey, you don’t need to figure out if he is a narcissist. All you need to know you know already. He hit you, he screwed around on you and every woman he has ever been with, and the woman with him is immature and will learn her lesson soon enough.
      If she knows he hit you and stays because she thinks it won’t happen to her she is in for a big surprise.
      You need to focus on your life and what you want in life. Reestablish your relationship with your family and friends, work on your self esteem and maybe see a therapist who will help you to realize you are worth so much more than what this asshole gave you. Learn how to set boundaries and protect them.
      Learn to love and appreciate yourself. No man can give you worth and until you value yourself no man will value you.
      Good luck and let me know how you are doing. I care. but i care about you, not your ex, he doesn’t deserve the time and tears you are wasting on him. You are far too young to waste time on an asshole.


  5. marjoriebphotos

    BTW–be aware that it isn’t only a “couples” thing. I had a boss who was emotionally abusive to me for years, and after he left the next boss picked it right up….It was the only financially feasible job I could find closer than an hour’s commute each way….It was years ago, but I’m still in recovery.


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      Marjorie, I am well aware that narcissists are in the workplace, all these guys who are in relationships are working somewhere. Or most of them. They are not just narcissists at home, they are narcissists period. It is a personality disorder that affects all areas of their life.
      They usually do very well in business because they are ruthless.
      Good luck on your recovery and all the best in 2015


  6. Christine

    Thank you so much for this. A few months ago I left someone who somehow always gave me that sinking feeling deep down in my gut, without being able to put my finger on exactly why. After reading this, though, and other articles like it–I’m finally understanding what happened. Mine would give me all sorts of unsolicited advice about what I should do in my life (i.e. what car to buy, where I should live next, what to do in my career, etc.) He made it seem like he was doing this because he cared about me and wanted to help me. However, it somehow just didn’t feel right–although I initially brushed those feelings aside and told myself that it was nice of him to try to help me. After reading the first section on inducing disorientation, a light bulb has gone off. In hindsight, I think he was trying to undermine my faith in my own judgment. He made it seem like I’m too incompetent to make my own life decisions and need him to make them for me.

    He gradually also went on to the incapacitating as well. He kept saying disparaging things about my job (which I happen to like), trying to induce me to quit. He’d throw such fits about me wanting to spend time with friends and family that it became easier to just spend my time with him when he wanted me to. He especially hated the way I love and dote on my little nephew, for some reason. As you can imagine, my loved ones didn’t take too kindly to this and I’m glad I’ve reconciled with them. The one time I did try to get him together with my friends, he embarrassed me in front of them with wildly inappropriate behavior–so much so that later on, I no longer wanted us all to hang out together, to avoid further embarrassment. I ended up almost being in an isolated bubble with him when we were together.

    I’m just glad that the light bulb eventually went off, I finally had enough, and I left relatively early after a few weeks. After leaving and being away from his influence, I got much more clarity about the situation. Now I’m just going to work on building up a fabulous new life for myself in 2015.


  7. none

    Thank you for sharing your experience. “control by proxy” so I don’t want to say anything else for now. This was very helpful and validating..I really am. Thanks.


  8. none

    I am really grateful is what I wanted to type. Sorry. Key lag and such..I am sure some others understand this. Well I hope they don’t!! No one should feel like this ever.


  9. shannon

    I’m so relieved to have found these blogs.my x narc just yesterday told me the * reason* he broke things off with me,mind you that was 2 yrs ago but he’s breezed back numerous times since and I let him:(he said we slept together to soon,I’m to big,to old,that all I thought about was sex.that people date all the time and sometimes it just doesn’t work out,that I just can’t accept it,something just isn’t right because I remember things very differently .he had no problem taking my money,food etc.completely messed my head up because I’ve busted him out on cheating,all the lies,even said he’s disrespecting me,he gave me all kinds of advice,that sounds like great advice how to * move* on,we just weren’t meant to be,basically making me que everything about myself with this flip flop routine.I’ve spoken to his ex wife,she found me,our stories closely mirrored each other.that sometimes his words and actions * make sense* and we are the fruit loops,its wrong but yes I looked on his fb he’s recently joined all kinds of single biker sites after telling me he’s not ready for commitment then I’m not the one,to I’m just a f* buddy.can anyone tell me,did I misunderstand,I don’t know if I made a mistake…ugh so confused


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      Shannon, its called gas lighting, keep reading and educating yourself on narcissists. Listen to his ex wife, the best way to predict the future is to look at his past. You have an advantage many victims don’t, you know he has done this before. So unlikely you misunderstood. He is playing with you, it is all head games.
      Don’t be the fuck buddy, stop being the door mat, stop taking advice from the man who is breaking your heart. Stop looking at his facebook, go no contact and never speak to him again. It is dead, he has said he is not interested so walk away and work on healing yourself and building up your self esteem and self love. Why are you still taking him back if he has told you that all you are is a fuck buddy? Are you going to wait until he gives you an STD? because that will be the next thing.
      It was not your fault in the beginning, but now if you continue to see him and sleep with him, when you know the truth then you have to take your share of responsibility for the pain he causes you.
      It is not the end result you were hoping for but it is the one you got and it is up to you to save yourself. As long as you allow him into your life he will continue to use and abuse you.
      What is done is done there is no going back, no point in beating yourself up over it but you are wasting precious emotions over a guy who doesn’t care about you.
      Run!!! as fast as you can towards the light and leave the darkness behind.
      Good luck!


      1. shannon

        thank you for your response,again your site-blogs have been a god send,have been answering a lot of ques. I wasn’t aware till he stated recently I’m just a fuck buddy,had been told prior to that how much he loved-cared for me,was so attentive in non sexual ways,felt like a queen.I’ve been researching everything regarding people like him,the hoovering,projection,recently heard of the gas lighting,the yo-yo crap,they are never at fault,the smearing,every ex is crazy,I’m proud to say a few hours ago he contacted me for sex,I didn’t respond but read his messages the next one said OK I will be at our old spot where we went on our first date,when I still didn’t answer last message said,OK I’m here thought you’d be,go in home.baby steps but I’m proud of myself,we all KNOW what his intentions were!work in progress but tonight,my actions of no action towards him,felt damn empowering after yes of feeling I had none,hugs Carrie and thanks again xxxx



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