Common Expressions of a Narcissist

Here are a few expressions commonly used by a narcissist. Please feel free to add any you might have in the comment section.

“I don’t know what to say about that”
When he knows he should be showing an emotion but because he doesn’t feel the same as everyone else.

“There are many types of love, the love I have for you is different”
When he is caught saying I love you to another woman.

“They can’t believe their good fortune to finally have someone there who knows what they are doing, it’s going to take me a while to straighten up the mess from the last guy”
(Every time he gets a new job)

“I had them eating out of my hands.”
(Believes in manipulating others to create results).

“You didn’t let me finish what I was saying.”
(After verbally maiming and then pretending there was more to say)

“Just because I didn’t do what you wanted when you wanted it.”
(A justification for receptively breaking promises)

“Just because I didn’t say what you wanted to hear.”
(A justification for verbal abuse)

“You’re the only person who misunderstands what I say”

“You’re to sensitive, over-emotional, paranoid.”
(Same as above)

“You don’t know what you’re talking about, you can’t repeat what I said 5 minutes ago”
(No matter what you say they said they will disagree)

“I’m sorry, what more do you want from me, I can never make you happy no matter what I do.”
(Followed by justifications for the behaviour with body language that is clearly not aligned with an apology)

“How many times do I have to say I’m sorry.”
(Followed by repetitive unacceptable behaviour)

“Why do you have to live in the past?”
(Followed by repetitive unacceptable behaviour)

“What about your issues?”
(When failing to take responsibility for unacceptable behaviour)

“You make me behave like this, I am only reacting to your actions”
(Same applies for above)

“You’re the only person in the world I have these problems with.”
(Same applies for above)

“I can’t live with your dysfunctional perceptions”

“Why would I want to; come home, answer the phone, do something nice for you, (fill in the blank) when you act like this?”(Diverting blame)

Uses “loop hole” statements, such as:
“I *think* I’m falling in love with you” (he didn’t say he does love you)
“I *could* do this or that” (later he can say I said I could not that I would)
“*If* I asked you to marry me would you?” ( he didn’t ask)
“What size is your ring finger?”
(How you interpret that is not his fault)

“You act like my mother,” or, “You’re a control freak.”
(When asked for the truth or trustworthy / accountable behaviour)

“You know I hate conflict, but you continue to create it”
(When you confront him on something he’s done)

“This is exactly why I look elsewhere, you are always angry”
(When confronted about cheating)

“You should listen to yourself”

“If you knew the truth you wouldn’t be upset” when asked what is the truth then? Replies,”You wouldn’t believe me if I told you anyway so why bother?”

“I’ve had enough, it’s over”
(When confronted on something like continued infidelity, rejecting you for being angry)

“I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person”
(While walking away from an argument)


649 thoughts on “Common Expressions of a Narcissist

  1. tammy

    Oh, and here’s one Quote I NEVER hear, ” I’m sorry”….. Unless it’s sarcastic and includes an air that I better shut up and leave it alone


  2. Sam

    I hope you have remembered the life lessons I taught you (after physical abuse for years) as it will help you change for the better so the next guy can love you more easily. Like my ex, i told her that she should not be sad that I have moved on as she has learned many things from me. (after saying his ex is suicidal)

    I suggest you sleep around with no strings attached. Affairs like that team you things and makes a marriage stronger. You are too naive.

    If I were a woman, I would have more taste and class compared to you.

    Your post pregnancy tummy is ugly and you have cellulite. Look at my thighs, you need to go to gym. You are my cash cow darling (he will then laugh)

    You are weak, the weak link in this relationship. You need military treatment to toughen you up

    You are lucky I chose you, there are many other women who are after me. I chose you because I thought you were for the long haul, but you are like my mother. I hate my mother.

    You should really move on. I will not let myself be dragged into another year of our difficult relationship anymore. Let me be happy as that is what I dream of, to find happiness. If you will persist in being bitter forever, then its your problem. Why can’t we be friends? (after domestic violence for many years and child abuse of your child)


  3. Phee

    “I don’t know what you’re talking about”. This statement usually nullifies anything you have said or any question you have asked or want to ask. Even though I KNOW he knows exactly what I’m talking about, whenever he says that, I just feel defeated and utterly frustrated, because I know the “discussion” will go nowhere. Its a flat out refusal to take responsibility for whatever observation I have made, any concern or complaint or question that I have.

    “You hurt yourself”. This one is very popular with him. Its his way of saying he won’t apologise for whatever wrong he did me.

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  4. Jane

    “If you really loved me, you would do this for me. Are you trying to say that you don’t love me and our marriage is a lie?”


  5. Rocky

    “I never said that. You’re too sensitive. If I’m so difficult to be around, why do you stay? Are you a masochist?”


  6. k

    Let see worst ones.
    ” do you really think your my only choice”
    After taking him back for the millionth time in 30 years” i am 48 now “My fantasy is you at 21 and i close my eyes while we have sex because it turns me on to remember how you looked then and when i open my eyes and see what you look like now,it just ruins it for me.”
    And my least favourite since he cheated constantly years ago
    “Don’t worry if i have sex with anyone i would tell you”



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