Common Expressions of a Narcissist

Here are a few expressions commonly used by a narcissist. Please feel free to add any you might have in the comment section.

“I don’t know what to say about that”
When he knows he should be showing an emotion but because he doesn’t feel the same as everyone else.

“There are many types of love, the love I have for you is different”
When he is caught saying I love you to another woman.

“They can’t believe their good fortune to finally have someone there who knows what they are doing, it’s going to take me a while to straighten up the mess from the last guy”
(Every time he gets a new job)

“I had them eating out of my hands.”
(Believes in manipulating others to create results).

“You didn’t let me finish what I was saying.”
(After verbally maiming and then pretending there was more to say)

“Just because I didn’t do what you wanted when you wanted it.”
(A justification for receptively breaking promises)

“Just because I didn’t say what you wanted to hear.”
(A justification for verbal abuse)

“You’re the only person who misunderstands what I say”

“You’re to sensitive, over-emotional, paranoid.”
(Same as above)

“You don’t know what you’re talking about, you can’t repeat what I said 5 minutes ago”
(No matter what you say they said they will disagree)

“I’m sorry, what more do you want from me, I can never make you happy no matter what I do.”
(Followed by justifications for the behaviour with body language that is clearly not aligned with an apology)

“How many times do I have to say I’m sorry.”
(Followed by repetitive unacceptable behaviour)

“Why do you have to live in the past?”
(Followed by repetitive unacceptable behaviour)

“What about your issues?”
(When failing to take responsibility for unacceptable behaviour)

“You make me behave like this, I am only reacting to your actions”
(Same applies for above)

“You’re the only person in the world I have these problems with.”
(Same applies for above)

“I can’t live with your dysfunctional perceptions”

“Why would I want to; come home, answer the phone, do something nice for you, (fill in the blank) when you act like this?”(Diverting blame)

Uses “loop hole” statements, such as:
“I *think* I’m falling in love with you” (he didn’t say he does love you)
“I *could* do this or that” (later he can say I said I could not that I would)
“*If* I asked you to marry me would you?” ( he didn’t ask)
“What size is your ring finger?”
(How you interpret that is not his fault)

“You act like my mother,” or, “You’re a control freak.”
(When asked for the truth or trustworthy / accountable behaviour)

“You know I hate conflict, but you continue to create it”
(When you confront him on something he’s done)

“This is exactly why I look elsewhere, you are always angry”
(When confronted about cheating)

“You should listen to yourself”

“If you knew the truth you wouldn’t be upset” when asked what is the truth then? Replies,”You wouldn’t believe me if I told you anyway so why bother?”

“I’ve had enough, it’s over”
(When confronted on something like continued infidelity, rejecting you for being angry)

“I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person”
(While walking away from an argument)


701 thoughts on “Common Expressions of a Narcissist

  1. Leigh Gough

    I actively went after my narcissistic old man of 10 years, and his girlfriend and both the families and now there is trouble in paradise for them. Never let them get away with it .. the only way to keep some sanity in your life is to make their life miserable .. They used technology against me .. that was a HUGE mistake on their part… see my FB page for details

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    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      Leigh, I am glad it worked out for you but I would not recommend victims of narcissists do the same thing. These people are VERY dangerous and extremely vindictive and can hold grudges an extraordinarily long time. You may think you got the better of them but I would be very careful because they will hit when you aren’t looking, even years down the road. There is no way a normal person can ever anticipate the depth of evil and how far they will go to exact revenge.


      1. Carrie Reimer Post author

        Leigh, I just came back from your FB page and I really do not recommend anyone do what you are doing. It may feel good right now but you could very well live to regret it and it could all backfire on you and make you look like the bitter jealous ex. I advise that you go no contact, that says so much more than all the slander you can do on FB. You really need to read up some more on narcissists, all this attention on FB is feeding his ego, he loves it!!! and it is driving the other woman into his arms. You are not getting the desired results. If you were to go no contact it would tell him you don’t care what the hell he does, as long as you are ranting on FB he knows he care. I know you are hurting and I feel for you, big hugs


  2. Human

    “Do narcissists acknowledge that they’re narcissists?”

    I think they typically believe they are very special individuals; superior, smarter, not realizing that there is nothing unique or remarkable about their devious schemes and deceptive behaviors, which are nothing but standard, routine practice for millions of run-of-the-mill narcissists, attestable by millions of victims who are making this discovery as they share their experiences.


  3. Yvonne

    Is there such thing as a insanely insecure narsissist? Or is that the same thing? I think my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years is. I researched narsissist and he has 28 out of the 30 signs and 9 out of 12 signs of misogynist and all 15 of an insecure man. I researched insecure men and it’s like I was reading about the narsassist. What the hell have I gotten myself into? Now I know his insecurity is mostly to blame and that’s why he munipilates everything I can actually feel myself fading away from him. I’m not as scared as I was before. Wonder why? Is it finally SINKING in my mind that I can beat this mental and verbal abuse?!


  4. courtney

    I noticed my narcissists manipulation never ever ends.
    Every word is never just a word it always has an agenda.
    She will use good qualities i have, and criticize me for them..make them a negative in me..then use my good qualities to talk about someone else.
    So my honesty she will use as a negative to put me down..then talk about someone ams say I love how honest she is …
    It’s constant i mean it never ever stops for a second. .

    Is my narcissist extreme or are they all this bad 24 7?


    1. Yvonne

      Yeah I was sucked in by his charming ways and felt comfortable to be honest and up front with him with my faults and weaknesses. Now only to find out what he really is and uses that information to his advantage to put me down, degrade me, make me feel 2 inches tall. He munipilates everything. Even when i catch him in a lie he will reverse it and bring up something I did do the finger is pointed at me not him. There’s something psychologically wrong with this man. Exhausted from trying to figure his immature ass out. Insecure and immature narsissistic bullshit!!!!



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