Merry Christmas To All And To All Good Night and Peace On Earth

  I want to wish everyone a heart felt Merry Christmas and a new year filled with only the best of things, top of that list being.......Peace. Peace of mind, peace in your heart, peace in your physical world and among your family and friends. Some of you are probably miserable today fantasizing about the …

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What Do 35 Christmas Movies All Have In Common?

They all could be an educational film on "How a narcissist hooks their target". I didn't watch them all, all the way through, really, once you have seen one or two the story line doesn't change much and they all end in the same way. The heroine of the story is engaged to a guy …

Why No One Ever Listens

*Fist pumping the air* and shouting “Yes!!! Please, if you won’t listen to me…….. listen to Scott, he does this for a living!”
He is saying everything I have said ad nauseum, TAKE TIME TO HEAL before you even think about dating. Sure it hurts and it sucks but healthy people attract healthy people, needy people attract unhealthy people. If you just got out of an abusive relationship, you are not healthy. Just trust me on this. Dating too soon almost guarantees you will end up with another narcissist.
Take my word for it, or Scott’s word for it…… please do not go looking to someone else to make you feel better.

This conversation is a part of my world, almost every week. People who are breaking up often wander into my office, and inevitably it comes down to the conversation that no one who is freshly single really wants to investigate too thoroughly, with someone as brutally honest as yours truly. When you are in my clutches I do not filter. Ever. Any of you who have worked with me are welcome to share your stories in the comments section. Some counsellors will ask you “and how does that make you feel”. Every class in Master’s level psychology assumes the role of a counsellor to be that of empathetic and boring mirror that is paid to help you realize you already know the answer deep inside your precious heart. I don’t do that. I’m getting older and I’m sick and tired of pretending I’m normal so clients either like the process…

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If Leaving Was The Right Decision – Why Does It Hurt So Bad?

Quite a few people on the blog have just left or are planning to leave their relationship with someone they consider to be a narcissist. This applies to them and anyone else who has just left a relationship and is thinking maybe they made a mistake, because if it was that bad why does it …