Why No One Ever Listens

*Fist pumping the air* and shouting “Yes!!! Please, if you won’t listen to me…….. listen to Scott, he does this for a living!”
He is saying everything I have said ad nauseum, TAKE TIME TO HEAL before you even think about dating. Sure it hurts and it sucks but healthy people attract healthy people, needy people attract unhealthy people. If you just got out of an abusive relationship, you are not healthy. Just trust me on this. Dating too soon almost guarantees you will end up with another narcissist.
Take my word for it, or Scott’s word for it…… please do not go looking to someone else to make you feel better.

This conversation is a part of my world, almost every week. People who are breaking up often wander into my office, and inevitably it comes down to the conversation that no one who is freshly single really wants to investigate too thoroughly, with someone as brutally honest as yours truly. When you are in my clutches I do not filter. Ever. Any of you who have worked with me are welcome to share your stories in the comments section. Some counsellors will ask you “and how does that make you feel”. Every class in Master’s level psychology assumes the role of a counsellor to be that of empathetic and boring mirror that is paid to help you realize you already know the answer deep inside your precious heart. I don’t do that. I’m getting older and I’m sick and tired of pretending I’m normal so clients either like the process…

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