You know the saying; those that can’t, teach? Well that is me, please believe me, no contact with your ex narcissistic spouse is the only way to save yourself.
To quote my father, “Do as I say not as I do!”
They do NOT change, they do NOT care about you and they will NOT give you closure or admit they had any fault in the relationship failing. IF they do admit fault and apologize, run for cover because they are “softening” you up for another go around.
If you go back, the abuse WILL be worse! They won’t respect you for being so weak that you believed their crap, and they won’t stop whatever they were doing to hurt you, if they had personal ads now they will up the anti to actually dating, if they were already dating then they will fall in love, if it was jealousy he will be even more controlling, if you were doing well without him he will systematically destroy anything that empowers you. He will make sure you are dependent on him again. Believe me when I say; you will NOT win.
You can not be friends, if you aren’t a source of NS he has no use for you. Plus he gets his kicks from hurting you, if he can make you feel bad and insecure he feels in control plus he hates you for not having an endless supply of ns. He demanded the impossible and hates you for failing to deliver, there is no changing his mind.
He will start a smear campaign against you to make himself look like the victim and he will lie to you about things you did to him.
You can not win and he will hurt you.
Have some pride and don’t let him do it to you!
I contacted him yesterday because his sister tried to commit suicide and contacted me; it doesn’t matter what is happening he has to put his digs in about the new g/f, his new wonderful life. I am so sorry I called!
Learn from my mistakes.
Has any one ever gotten a genuine apology from a narcissist? Ever gotten closure? Ever seen one change for the better? I’d love to hear about it if you have!