The Narcissist Apologizes and Wants you Back!!!!

You’ve been split from your narcissistic partner and are starting to feel like you just might survive this horrible experience. You have probably not had contact with him for a while but you still think about him, it still hurts but you don’t cry every day and you can feel your old self coming back.

And then.

He calls, or shows up out of the blue. He tells you every thing you longed to hear for so long. He is sorry, so sorry, he cries and looks so remorseful. Then he does something totally out of character; he takes full responsibility for his actions; he admits he was wrong to be unfaithful, to hit you or verbally assault you. He says he has realized you are the woman he wants for the rest of his life. He begs for another chance and looks you right in the eye with tears streaming down his face. He looks so vulnerable and you feel your resolve weakening and your love and compassion returning. You go to him and he holds you like you are his life line; like he’ll never let you go

Then the two of you are both crying and you hold each other for a long time and maybe you say, “You really hurt me”.

Him, “sshhhh Baby. I’m so sorry I’ll never hurt you again. I love you, please don’t cry.”

You’re crying harder, all the pain and loneliness seems to be spilling from your body, “I love you too.”

Him, “Can you ever forgive me?”

You, “Of course but it’s going to take time”

Him, “Take all the time you need, as long as you give me the chance to prove my love for you; as long as you are willing to give me a 2nd chance. I promise you won’t regret it”.

This is what you’ve dreamed of for months; your heart is pounding out of your chest, your knees feel weak, and your heart is full of love for this man. He loves YOU!!

He kisses you softly, kisses the tears from your cheeks, brushes the hair from your eyes and stares deep into your soul pleading with his eyes. He looks like a little boy, so innocent and he says he should have known better than to think he could ever be happy without you. And as his voice chokes with emotion again he admits, “He’s never loved anyone like he loves you, maybe it scared him at first but he’s realized how wrong he was to push you away.”.

He whispers in your ear, “Will you marry me?”

You hold him and both of you are crying and laughing at the same time.

He must be telling the truth; why would he bother to apologize and admit to everything he ever did wrong if he doesn’t have full intentions of changing?. People don’t admit they were wrong if they have no plans to change. He’s so humble, so remorseful, so contrite and he said he still LOVES YOU!!! YOU! Only you!

But that little voice in your gut is screaming Run!!! You tell it to “shut up!!”,you don’t want to hear it. It’s just nervous excitement because this so unexpected.

You never thought you’d hear him say all those wonderful things. You aren’t going to let anything put a damper on how wonderful and alive you feel.

The narcissist has just made his curtain call.

Before you start planning the wedding, before you jump back in and give your heart away again. Please go to the site below.

I wish I had!

http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-he-or-she-really-a-narcissist-laying-boundaries-and-accountability/

Posted by Carrie the Lady Witha Truck using WordPress for BlackBerry.

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86 thoughts on “The Narcissist Apologizes and Wants you Back!!!!

  1. You’re deluding yourself in thinking things will be different with another shot at the relationship.

    What I learned with my Narc is that people tolerate what’s going on in hopes that things will change; but most people learn – they never do!

    These are high expectations of love. “Love doesn’t hurt. Expectations do.”
    “Expectations are another way of hurting yourself.”

    Therefore, high hopes for situations in relationships must cease and reality MUST be looked at for what it is.
    In the end, you start thinking about the beginning – and the beginning is always good – which is why it’s so hard to forget; but the end, O M G, the end is what takes a piece out of you. And when that piece is taken, you never get it back and you are never the same again!

    You are broken at this point; and you are hoping for them to fix you because they claimed they loved you so much!

    I swear to “GOD” that’s not going to happen!

    If you expect them to help you…they will be LAUGHING at you!
    Because of these feelings, you want to run BACK to your comfort zone; to how it was in the beginning. That’s the reason you want the Narcissist back; but you will be running back to an illusion: False Temporary Love!

    GET THIS IN YOUR HEAD:

    THE NARCISSIST NEVER LOVED YOU!!!

    Keep in mind: your ex, is an ex, for a reason!

    RED FLAG # 25 – WANTING A NARCISSIST BACK!

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  2. He’s a Christian. So, I thought I Finally met the Right Godly Man for me. My husband.
    He had Numerous Emotional Affairs with me. Just to Abandon, Reject, Neglect, & Drop me like a Hot Potato.
    Leaving me Completely Depressed in Extreme Anguish.
    Then he says: “I Did Nothing To You. He Seriously Tore my insides Out in Shreds!!!!
    He then said: “I Relented!! You Just Need To Forgive Me!!”
    He Never Ever Apologized At All.

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  3. Dr.mac(@)yahoo.com is a wonderful spell caster. Very trustworthy, My husband cheated on me for Almost for three years. he ignore me for several months and left me with nothing, but i am happy today that Dr Mack brought my husband back, I am so happy, Now my husband is all mine again. I can now say I’m happy again. I recommend his love spell to anyone who is ready to get his or her lover back:((

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  4. Very difficult when it is your son who has been abusing you for many years, without even your husband realising. I have always put my son’s abusive behaviour down to his ADHD diagnosis when he was 17. He can’t help it, he doesn’t mean it, he’s always sorry afterwards. It’s like trying to make a crippled person walk to think he can help his actions. Despite all the hurt he’s caused us, I feel for him and his pain, but it’s time to look after ME. My daughters have finally made me realise that he is a narcissist, and said they had had enough. They have slowly helped me realise that we were all under his spell. It’s still pretty raw, and I don’t think it would take much to give him another chance, but I need to do this for my girls, whom he has bullied their entire lives, and tried to convince me that they were mental (as well as me.) My counsellor has been an absolute rock, and we are going to get through this.

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