My Headless Friend

Taken Thanksgiving 2012

Just wait until my teeth are fixed

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My headless friend is a really good friend who drives transport and was in town Monday so a few of us met for coffee. I met my HF when JC and I were living in WalMart parking lot, he had seen JC’s tractor and had come over and said hi. JC called me saying I had to come to the Best Western and meet this cool guy he’d just met. My HF is quite simply one of the nicest guys I’ve met, he is Christian and can quote scripture like no one I have ever met besides JC’s mother but he isn’t pushy about it. And of course seeing as HF was Christian JC was also. All of a sudden JC was all into going to church, saying Grace every meal, and HF became his best friend immediately. (I found with JC he was the same with his male friends as he was with women, he became fast friends with guys immediately and would be calling them constantly, doing them favors, giving them gifts, taking on their views and beliefs and almost idolizing them. But something would happen, JC would screw them in a deal or they would accuse him of stealing or he would start jerking them around, not showing up etc and they would get angry with him)

I didn’t want to post HE’s face without his permission but I like the picture and Lou had requested a picture of me in my skinny jeans so there I am in my skinny jeans trying to stifle a smile. By the way, I am finally going to get the last of my dental work done this Friday so there should be smiling big time in a few weeks. Wooohooo

I had a really good weekend, one of the best I’ve had in over two years. My mom emailed me on Saturday to see if I wanted to go out for supper Sunday. She picked me up and we went to the Dewdney Pub and had a really excellent turkey dinner. My HF called Saturday to see if I wanted to get together on Monday with him and 2 other guys. So Monday afternoon I had a good couple hours visit with them and then went to visit another friend. She had mail for me from the trailer park and there was a cheque from the coop for me for $125.

My weekends are usually so depressing and long weekends even worse but I felt great. I gave myself a French manicure, talked to my son, my cousin, text messaged my contact list to say Happy Thanksgiving, JC’s sister Denise dropped in on my blog and commented on my post ” Poverty is For Other People” saying it was really well done. I was so touched her took the time to comment.

None of that is that special, do you wanna know what made it really special?
I didn’t talk about JC all weekend except in casual passing. HF asked if I had talked to him lately because JC never returns his phone messages or emails and I just said, “No but his step dad called me the other day to see if I’d tslkrx to him because he isn’t returning their calls either.” I am no longer the “go to person” when anyone is looking for JC, That in itself felt great.

I talked about what I want to do with my life, my new career ideas, my blog, my dogs, but not JC!! You know why I didn’t talk about JC? Because he doesn’t matter any more. He does not control me or consume me any more. I look at a picture of him and feel ill at the thought that I actually loved someone who was capable of the things he did. I don’t know who that woman was who allowed a man to treat her with such disrespect, who thought her life wasn’t worth living because he said so. As we were parting my HF yelled after me as I walked to my truck, “Hey! Carrie, you looking really good!”

I laughed and said, “thankyou! Wait until you see me with my new teeth, I’m gonna be HOT!” and I meant it.

Now I just have to get out of this damn trailer and I will be able to truly move on. I’ll fill you in on my career plans another post when I get some things lined up but I am excited.

Oh! And out of the blue my camera on my phone just started working again! Go figure! Things are looking up, could it be true that when you cut the evil out of your life it makes room for the good to come in? Stay tuned to find out. 😉

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7 Replies to “My Headless Friend”

  1. Way to go Carrie..!!! I recently ran into my sociopath ex….and low and behold, despite the assurances that he wasn’t going to get another girl….he had a new one…..with the same name as me!!! First I was upset he had lied again, then I was happy because there now is no guilt about anything. I sent him a text and said he looked good in his new life chasing young girls and I had moved on. Thank you so much for starting this post….you will never truely appreciate how much it has helped me survive what was thrown at me from that manipulative prick. I have lost 10kilo, look good and now feel even better!!! Cheers everyone

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    1. j, you are more than welcome!! Glad I could help! Everyone here has helped me immensely also, guess that’s a win/win. helluva lot better than the you lose/he wins i am used to. 😉 So glad you are feeling better and i don’t know if you wanted to lose weight but most of us are always happy to lose a few pounds. You go girl!! leave the a-hole in your dust!!

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  2. I am so happy that you had such a great weekend. It sounds like it was empowering to realize the progress you have made and are making. You deserve it. Yay!!!!!

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    1. Twistedheart,
      Thankyou so much!! it was a good weekend for me, because for the first time in like 10 or more years JC wasn’t consuming my thoughts and I didn’t even talk about him until HF asked about him and then I kept it short. We got together again the next night for dinner, the same group of us. I just have to move now, soon!!! that is the only thing holding me back now.
      There is life and happiness after the narcissist!! I promise. it took me over a year and half though so be patient with yourself, baby steps and you’ll get there too.
      hugs Carrie

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  3. Awesomeness, Carrie. I am SO happy to hear you well – and to see you so gorgeous! Skinny jeans indeed! Love the boots, actually 🙂

    Oh Carrie, this is a terrific post. I am so, so happy for you. KEEP IT GOING. You know, you KNOW what you DON’T need (just like me!!) 🙂

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