The United Nations Development Fund for Women reports that at least 1 in 3 women globally will be beaten, raped or other ways abused in her life time.
15.5 million children in the US live in a home where domestic abuse has occurred at least once in the last year.
In a single day in 2008 there were 16, 458 children living in a shelter for domestic abuse victims.
In Alaska, Canada and the USA native women experience the highest percentage of domestic abuse.
Women between the ages of 20 and 24 experience the next highest rate of abuse by an intimate partner.
On average 3 women a day are murdered by their spouse (includes common law relationships) or boyfriend in the United States. In 2005, 1181 women were murdered by an intimate partner.
In 2008 it was reported that in the US 2 million women received injuries due to domestic abuse.
In the US 1 in 4 women report having been the victim of domestic violence at least once in their life.
In one year twenty out of 1000 women in the US report being stocked by a former intimate partner.
In Canada statistics show that between 2005 and 2009, 581 women were murdered by their spouse;
183 were stabbed, 149 were shot, 91 were beaten. to death, 128 were strangled, and the rest were. either, poisoned, lethal injection, smoke inhalation or burned. This does not include the murders where there was no chargers laid such as mysterious disappearance or “accidental” deaths.
In 2010 an assessment called “Nothing to Report” was performed on B.C.’s response to two urgent recommendations made to Canada by the United Nations Committee on the Elimination of Discrimination against Women (UN CEDAW) in 2008.
Canada was given one year to report back on steps taken throughout the country to address:
– Police and government failure to deal effectively with violence against women and girls,
– Women’s poverty and inadequate social assistance rates.
The report concludes that B.C. has taken no effective steps to respond to the UN Committee’s direction nor has the province urged the federal government to take action.
B.C. has the highest rate of poverty in Canada, and social assistance rates in this province are too low to cover both rent and decent food. It stands to reason that when social assistance rates are inadequate women are endangered. They become homeless or they feel compelled to stay in an abusive relationship. It is time for BC and Canada to respect the international human rights obligations and responsibilities to which Canada and its provinces and territories have pledged.
1 in 3 teenagers report being victims of physical, emotional, or verbal abuse by a dating partner.
2 out of 5 tweens, ages 11 and 12, report friends they know are in verbally abusive dating relationships.
1 in 5 tweens, ages 11 to 14 report they have friends who are victims of dating violence and HALF reported knowing a friend who is verbally abused by a dating partner.
Women who have experienced domestic abuse are 80% more likely to suffer a stroke, 70% more likely to have a heart attack, 60% more likely to have asthma, and 70% more likely to drink heavily than women who have not experienced domestic violence.
In 1995 domestic abuse cost the US 5.8 billion in medical and mental health services.
Sexual and domestic violence is linked to a wide range of reproductive health issues including sexually transmitted disease and HIV transmission, miscarriages, risky sexual health behaviour and more.
Teen victims of physical dating violence are more likely than their non-abused peers to smoke, use drugs, engage in unhealthy diet behaviors (taking diet pills or laxatives and vomiting to lose weight), engage in risky sexual behaviors, and attempt or consider suicide.
Technology has become a quick and easy way for stalkers to monitor and harass their victims. More than one in four stalking victims reports that some form of cyberstalking was used against them, such as email (83 percent of all cyberstalking victims) or instant messaging (35 percent). Electronic monitoring of some kind is used to stalk one in 13 victims.
One in five teen girls and one in ten younger teen girls (age 13 to 16) have electronically sent or posted nude or semi-nude photos or videos of themselves. Even more teen girls, 37 %, have sent or posted sexually suggestive text, email or IM (instant messages).
More than half of teen girls 51% say pressure from a guy is a reason girls send sexy messages or images, while only 18 % of teen boys say pressure from a girl is a reason. Twelve percent of teen girls who have sent sexually suggestive messages or images say they felt “pressured” to do so.
What does all this information tell me, what should it tell you?, that there is something horribly, horribly wrong with our world and we should be appalled and immediately start doing something about it instead of burying our head in the sand.
The first thing that needs to be done is the silence has to be broken, we need to talk about it and keep talking about it until people get it. We need:
people to stop blaming the victim for their own abuse
the code of silence has to be broken, victims should not be shamed into silence
the “men’s club” has to be held accountable,
to educate our kids in primary school through to grade 12 that abuse, whether it is physical, emotional or verbal is wrong and won’t be tolerated and that includes both sexes.
To educate society that abuse doesn’t always leave bruises and that mental, verbal and financial abuse leave scars that often times don’t heal and also kill because the victim commits suicide.
The police and first responders to be educated in domestic violence and how to properly support the victim.
Need to restore the family unit and not have our children raised by day cares, baby sat by the TV, or raising themselves. If that means both parents don’t work and little Johnny can’t wear $200 jeans, and little Sally can’t go tanning or they don’t get to spend $1000 on a prom dress and limo, or maybe they don’t get the latest video game, so be it.
We need to restore community, no man is an island, it takes a village to raise a child, instead of it’s none of my business and I don’t want to get involved.
Teach our kids respect, boundaries, compassion, and self confidence to be an individual and not feel pressured into going with the majority. If ONE, just one kid had the guts to say, “hey this is wrong, I don’t want any part of it.” how many of the other kids would back away?
There is a “boys” club where the guys stick together and keep score of how many girls they get blow jobs from and who can get a girl to bed, they have each others backs sort of speak. What happened to the “girls club” ? They are a bunch of back stabbing bitches that talk their “friends” into compromising their principles and values, will steal each others boyfriend or husband, lie about another woman and actually gloat about causing another woman pain. What the hell is THAT all about??? What happened to loyalty to your gender??
Every body STOP saying “Its not my problem” it sure the hell is your problem, if you have a sister, a mother, a daughter, wife, grand daughters, or you know a woman
IT IS YOUR PROBLEM!!!!