Ok, class, can anyone point out the psychopath? We all know what a psychopath looks like, right? People don’t even realize they do it but our minds are programmed to look at an attractive person and assume they are normal nice people and a psychopath looks like this guy.
Who wouldn’t know this man is crazy?
A few years ago in a small town called Merritt in BC this man’s estranged wife left their three children in the care of her ex husband and went away for the weekend. She came home to her find the two youngest boy’s cold dead bodies wrapped in blankets on the couch and her 10 year old daughter wrapped in a blanket on her bed stabbed to death. Her three small children murdered and left for her to find and her ex gone.
After an extensive man hunt he was found by a trapper hiding out in the bush. He was very afraid the man was going to shoot him, poor fellow.
This incident has caused the Child Welfare Department in BC to take another look at how domestic violence cases are handled. Like I said in my letter to our premier what concerns me about Child Welfare getting involved mother’s are going to be less likely to report abuse for fear their children will be taken away. The answer to the problem is to support and educate the mother. Empower the mother and she will protect her children. Train the authorities like the police and court to believe the mother when she says she thinks she or her children are in danger and don’t enforce visitation with an abusive ex.
By the way, he was found guilty of first degree murder (they provided it was premeditated) but was found “not criminally responsible” because he “was” mentally unstable at the time and was suffering from delusional mind disease.(What ever that is) Three years after he killed his three innocent children by stabbing them to death he was granted supervised day trips to the mall to have coffee. One year prior he had asked to be released period and been denied because while in the mental hospital he had been violent and refused to take his meds. So not being stupid, he went back to the hospital, was a good boy, played by their rules and in one year tried a more reasonable approach. He is playing them, he actually feels he has a right to go to the mall for coffee? That he is deprived of his rights and he should be able to walk through the mall and have a leisurely cup of Starbucks, I’m sure his ex wife wishes that was the only thing missing from her life.
I have always questioned these cases where the murderer is found to have been “temporarily insane”, what sane person goes and kills someone? Of course they are insane!!! the parole board insisted he be supervised (duh!) because he still has unresolved anger issues and he was not to contact his ex wife, have any knives and he must take his meds. I have not heard any more about the case in almost a year.
The Crown prosecutor cautioned the board that Al Schoenborn is a very manipulative person. In court Crown tried to prove Schoenborn killed his children in cold blood out of revenge because his ex wife repeatedly refused his requests to reconcile.
The point I want to make is this; society sees this guy’s picture and immediately can see that of course this guy is deranged! Its written all over his face. The picture was taken during his arrest after he had been in the bush without food for almost 9 days. He was afraid for his own safety because he had just murdered his three children and he knew people would be more than happy to shoot him, of course he is not looking his best. (The trapper who found him said he was terrified the trapper was going to hurt him)
We don’t know what he looked like when his ex wife met him. You can see the potential for him to be a good looking man. I don’t know their story, how they met etc but I would bet money that it is very similar to many of the stories we read right here on this blog. That woman and her children could be anyone of the women who come in here, given the right (wrong) set of circumstances. Exactly at what point does a Narcissist fall off the precarious fence he walks between good and evil, when does a psychopath crack and “make you pay” for allegedly “not loving him” or for being too suspicious? For nagging too much.
They want to destroy you, they’ve made that obvious by draining you financially, emotionally, and mentally. If he has hit you in the past, he always knew when to stop and he never hurt the kids. (Like JC said, “don’t be ridiculous, I know exactly when to stop”) But there is a fine line with that kind of control, they know it is wrong to hit you but they still do so if he was angry enough, he knows when to stop but would he? What if the one thing that kept you going was your kids and you kept refusing to go back? What if he wanted to destroy your life forever, so you would never forget him. What exactly would put him over the edge? Are you willing to wait and find out?
Unfortunately society thinks they would recognize a murderer because these are the picture they see on the news. They don’t think it could be the good looking guy living next door, or the guy who is in class with their daughter that keeps calling. They don’t wear a big “P” on their forehead (although that’s a damn good idea).
I don’t know if anyone else experienced this with their “N” but with JC, he would take good care of himself, dress well, be personable, loving, good humored; the man I fell in love with. With time little cracks appeared in his mask, but he was able to carry it off for a long period of time; like a year or more before the mask fell completely.
That is when he would get scary, when I would find him watching me from the shadows, find hidden cameras, he would sleep less, he would destroy my personal possessions and he would have his “rages” over nothing, when the look in his eyes was loathing and I could tell he hated me, I could do nothing right yet he would prevent me from leaving. Who knows what he was thinking, it certainly wasn’t rational.
You doubt yourself, you think maybe it was your fault he treated you so badly, how long do you stay? Would you recognize a psychopath if you slept with one?