Almost daily I receive email or messages on one of my other social media from a victim of narcissistic abuse requesting to speak with me privately.
As much as I would love to be independently wealthy and able to help everyone free of charge I just can not.
I don't have any secrets that I only share privately, everything I know about narcissists I share here for free. But if you feel you need one on one consultation I can be reached at reimerc@outlook.com to make arrangements for personal, private support for a fee.
Please email me to discuss rates and what your needs are. I look forward to working with you on your journey back to the land of the living! There is life and light after the narcissist, I promise!!
Talk to you soon.
It has been brought to my attention by the police that my blog may incite violence. I want to make it perfectly clear that my intention was never one of revenge or violence against my ex. I have ensured to not put his full name in the blog and have used his first name or initials. Anyone can do a Google search on his name or business name and my blog will not appear anywhere in the search results. Interestingly enough his ad looking for sex does show up.
I do not advocate revenge, a narcissist can always "one up you" in the revenge department because those with a conscience can not even think of the things a narcissist can and a narcissist must win at any cost.
So why do I have this blog? Like the police officer said, "Most victims who are fearful of their abuser try to avoid making him angry."
My reply was; You are right and the silence of the victim perpetuates the problem of domestic abuse and enables the abuser to continue. I promised myself that if I survived what I was going through I would spend the rest of my days raising awareness and sharing my experience in hopes I saved even one woman from suffering like I did. I refer to my personal experience because I want to be totally honest and open, which makes the people who come to my blog comfortable enough to share their experiences and know they are not crazy. I thought I was crazy, most victims do. I wanted to show that they are not alone and they are not crazy.
My blog is not technical, I am not a counselor or mental health professional in any way. I am a survivor of domestic abuse by someone I consider to be a psychopath/narcissist. I had no idea what had happened to me, I have shared every step of my recovery and every bit of information I have found on narcissists and psychopaths; good and bad, in hopes it helps someone else. I blog in hopes of ending violence, NOT inciting violence!
The police officer was very understanding, I wish I would have spoken someone like him years ago.
I am all about not breaking the law, I didn't make it to almost 60 with a clean record by accident. When I asked the officer what I can do to appease the law and yet still retain my right to free speech he suggested I go through my posts and remove my ex's name and replace it with "My ex". I have started this process but with over 1000 posts it is going to take time.
The officer said that someone reading my blog might get so upset by what I share that they decide to hunt down my ex and do him harm. I find it hard to believe someone would go to that extent. But there are nutcases in the world. Let me assure you!! I do not want anyone thinking I would approve of any harm coming to my ex. He really is not worth it!!
I am far past any anger, I am at; meh!
The man has taken enough of my time. This is not about him, it is about me raising awareness about a very serious issue that affects 1 in 4 women in North America and 1 in 3 women globally.
According to my ex every woman he has ever been involved with is a psycho bitch C&%* and he has changed because he has found his soulmate.
Personally, I had never been in an abusive relationship prior to him and I did not go running to another man to heal me after him. I chose to find out what happened to me, work on myself and educate myself so that it never happened again to me and so I could educate others.
So that is what I intend to continue doing.
Namaste
Carrie
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Ok, here’s how I feel about swearing. Did I miss something? I didn’t read yesterday, except one post I think. Anyway, do you know Natalie Lue? Baggage Reclaim? Um, she swears on her posts. I don’t see upheaval and moral self righteousness attached to her stuff, in fact, she’s more popular than ever.
If someone doesn’t like swearing and their ‘offended’ they can go elsewhere. Sometimes, we swear when we’re angry, especially when it comes to pathological behavior. I see NOTHING wrong with this AT ALL. I see too many writer’s being accused of being ‘narcs’ because they swear. I mean think about this: swearing so SO SUPERFICIAL. What is in the MESSAGE in that the swearing is included?
Swear away, honey. I’m listening. You’re a damned good writer. Oh, oops!
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Kelli, no one complained but someone apologized for swearing and i thought I’d add some humor to the blog today, a lot of people have been having a tough time with their ex’s lately.
But thank you for the compliment!! I’ve been known to throw the F bomb around more than once and never had a complaint. Some times no other word would do.
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No doubt about that! LOL! I know, F bombs are allowed when referencing the ex’s and truthfully, I think it’s being NICE 😉 Love your blog!
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LOLOL!! Thank goodness! I LOVE the F-bomb. I am also fond of the word “shit”…in reference to the N of course. There’s lots of words I like to use, but wasn’t sure if it would be offensive. I swear a lot when I’m alone. Nurses are notorious for swearing. Lol….. thanks Carrie and company!
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Connie,
LOL!!!
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I have tried to cut down on my swearing but the N will do it to me every time.
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Thank you Kelli, that’s a real compliment coming from you!
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You forgot just down right arsehole conceited prick… However I did like fother mucker!!! And as for cock sucking, I don’t think they are that because otherwise we’d all be completely happy ladies because the fother muckers wouldn’t need us!!!! Lol Have an awesome day!!!
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First of all let me say………….dang fine picture there lady!! You are so pretty!!
As for cock sucking…… I thought I would throw up when I found my ex’s profile on a gay porn/dating site and he had himself listed as gay. Not curious, not bi, but gay! and his picture was there.
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omg….amazing Carrie! What a &&%*##^!!!! Lol
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LOL Connie ………………you should have seen MY face!!LOL I found it while searching to see if he had put the video’s he’d taken of us having sex (without my knowledge) on the internet. It was a very old pic of him but it sure looked like him but he had dark glasses on and a lot more hair LOL his profile sure sounded like him, we had just gotten back together and the area he was from fit. I kept it to myself for a few days and then I said to his sister who was living with us, “I found something on the internet I want to show you and I don’t know what to do”. I showed her and asked if she thought it was him and she said the same thing I was thinking, It could be. A light bulb went on I remembered seeing an old photo album of his in the bedroom so I went and got it to see if we could find an old pic of him. Well I opened it randomly and it opened on THAT picture. I screamed and slammed it shut. she had her hands up and her head turned away and she kept saying I don’t want to see it I don’t want to see it!!
Yet, you know, I still didn’t want to leave him I still missed him, still had sex with him. Bizarre.
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HAHAHHAAAAA Nadine
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lmao FUNNY
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Glad you enjoyed it Lisa!!
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I’ve heard it all and said it all but I respect your post!
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Donna nice pic!! I guess the N’s have one good thing going for them, they have good taste in women eh? You’re adorable!
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I also say swear away! Interesting note on this that shows we’re not terribly imaginative swears. This aspect of our English language has actually been studied to count just how many swear words we commonly use…..we have just 26 actual swear words out of thousands of words floating out there! 26. Hmm… seems like we could surely come with more instead of using those same 26 over and over again in an endless loop. LOL. Okay, I enjoy little trivia like that. One of the best is the F bomb meaning: Fornicating Under Consent of King. Can you imagine having to get royal permission to do the deed? Swear on Ladies! Onward and Upward or up and down as the case may be!
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Remind me to never play trivial pursuit with you!! yikes! Thanks Linda, some times you just gotta swear and some times fuck is the only word that will do. I don’t use it often so it maintains it’s impact. If I ever tell someone to F off you know I am mad!!
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LOVE IT!! Thanks Carrie, I needed the humour today… Love and hugs,NNT
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NNT, I thought we could use some levity today, everyone has been bummed out lately, must be the moon or something the narcs are restless.
Love and Hugs back at ya
Carrie
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oh! and what a cutie pie you are!! Its so nice to put a face to the name.
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I posted yesterday. Can’t remember cursing except for the “asshat” word, but then as a lady above said, “Nurses are notorious for cursing”, LMAO! That’s the truth. However, I see my post is gone, so I am wondering if you think I am a mole or I actually said something wrong. If I did, I apologize. BTW, because I didn’t get a confirmation letter on this account for a week, I set up another account, and now I think I have 2 accounts. I’m confused, and sick of everything in my life right now. Sorry…. 🙂
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Kim, you didn’t say any thing wrong I am sure. All first time commenters go to be moderated, once a person has commented and been approved the first the rest of their posts will appear immediately. Unfortunately my ex was coming in under different aliases so I had to start moderating comments. But sometimes the spam filter will move a comment to the spam folder. I will go and have a peek.
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