Have you read that book ‘Why Does He Do That?’ by Lundy Bancroft.
It helped me decode my Narcissist’s emotional abuse.
I Highly recommend it. The author worked with men who were physically and or emotionally abusive for years and I was surprised to see every tactic my Narcissist used to control, and disrespect me in the book, and learned that it was his value system, which is pretty much condoned by the media, which allowed him feel it was ok to do what he was doing in order to get control and avoid responsibility.
The last quote reminded me of my N. Because he wanted me t be jealous of other women AND have other women be jealous of me. Essentially, he likes to play women off of each other. Which was also in the book. I highly encourage EVERY WOMAN to check this book out.
There are moments when you realize you may have hurt another, not from intent but because the things in life that you both desired seemed to take separate paths. Or that the love you thought you felt was not fully the love it should of been. Or you had unrealistic expectations of yourself or of the other person. It does not make you a bad person. It simply makes you a flawed human. And I for one am flawed.
Lonelyheart,
I used to say to my ex all the time. There is no crime in falling out of love with someone. If you don’t love me any more I will go away, I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. The crime is when you know a person loves you and you don’t love that person yet you don’t leave, you stay and blame the other person, tell them that you love them but they have to change this or that and it is never good enough. THEN you are wrong. I have broken a few hearts in my day, you fall out of love or the other person loves you more than you love them, shit happens and it hurts but the person moves on. With a narcissist they systematically destroy the person they say they love, they use emotional, mental, physical and financial abuse to literally destroy a person. That is not simply “falling out of love”.
Thanks for commenting lonelyheart
How very true,been there,done that!!
xx
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Great quotes, Carrie 🙂
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thank you ..needed this today
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I LOOOOVE the second quote the MOSTEst! Xxx
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I think my fav was the last one
Treat a woman in such a way that other women are jealous of HER!!
Thanks guys for stopping by!
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These are great! Thanks for posting them.
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Greenblades thanks for stopping by and commenting!
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Have you read that book ‘Why Does He Do That?’ by Lundy Bancroft.
It helped me decode my Narcissist’s emotional abuse.
I Highly recommend it. The author worked with men who were physically and or emotionally abusive for years and I was surprised to see every tactic my Narcissist used to control, and disrespect me in the book, and learned that it was his value system, which is pretty much condoned by the media, which allowed him feel it was ok to do what he was doing in order to get control and avoid responsibility.
The last quote reminded me of my N. Because he wanted me t be jealous of other women AND have other women be jealous of me. Essentially, he likes to play women off of each other. Which was also in the book. I highly encourage EVERY WOMAN to check this book out.
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656
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AnnStacy, thank you for the suggestion. If it helped you I am sure it will help others.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing that.
Hugs
Carrie
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There are moments when you realize you may have hurt another, not from intent but because the things in life that you both desired seemed to take separate paths. Or that the love you thought you felt was not fully the love it should of been. Or you had unrealistic expectations of yourself or of the other person. It does not make you a bad person. It simply makes you a flawed human. And I for one am flawed.
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Lonelyheart,
I used to say to my ex all the time. There is no crime in falling out of love with someone. If you don’t love me any more I will go away, I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. The crime is when you know a person loves you and you don’t love that person yet you don’t leave, you stay and blame the other person, tell them that you love them but they have to change this or that and it is never good enough. THEN you are wrong. I have broken a few hearts in my day, you fall out of love or the other person loves you more than you love them, shit happens and it hurts but the person moves on. With a narcissist they systematically destroy the person they say they love, they use emotional, mental, physical and financial abuse to literally destroy a person. That is not simply “falling out of love”.
Thanks for commenting lonelyheart
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you have no idea how baddly i needed those words in this moment.
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lonelyheart, glad I could help
Hugs
Carrie
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