Almost daily I receive email or messages on one of my other social media from a victim of narcissistic abuse requesting to speak with me privately.
As much as I would love to be independently wealthy and able to help everyone free of charge I just can not.
I don't have any secrets that I only share privately, everything I know about narcissists I share here for free. But if you feel you need one on one consultation I can be reached at reimerc@outlook.com to make arrangements for personal, private support for a fee.
Please email me to discuss rates and what your needs are. I look forward to working with you on your journey back to the land of the living! There is life and light after the narcissist, I promise!!
Talk to you soon.
It has been brought to my attention by the police that my blog may incite violence. I want to make it perfectly clear that my intention was never one of revenge or violence against my ex. I have ensured to not put his full name in the blog and have used his first name or initials. Anyone can do a Google search on his name or business name and my blog will not appear anywhere in the search results. Interestingly enough his ad looking for sex does show up.
I do not advocate revenge, a narcissist can always "one up you" in the revenge department because those with a conscience can not even think of the things a narcissist can and a narcissist must win at any cost.
So why do I have this blog? Like the police officer said, "Most victims who are fearful of their abuser try to avoid making him angry."
My reply was; You are right and the silence of the victim perpetuates the problem of domestic abuse and enables the abuser to continue. I promised myself that if I survived what I was going through I would spend the rest of my days raising awareness and sharing my experience in hopes I saved even one woman from suffering like I did. I refer to my personal experience because I want to be totally honest and open, which makes the people who come to my blog comfortable enough to share their experiences and know they are not crazy. I thought I was crazy, most victims do. I wanted to show that they are not alone and they are not crazy.
My blog is not technical, I am not a counselor or mental health professional in any way. I am a survivor of domestic abuse by someone I consider to be a psychopath/narcissist. I had no idea what had happened to me, I have shared every step of my recovery and every bit of information I have found on narcissists and psychopaths; good and bad, in hopes it helps someone else. I blog in hopes of ending violence, NOT inciting violence!
The police officer was very understanding, I wish I would have spoken someone like him years ago.
I am all about not breaking the law, I didn't make it to almost 60 with a clean record by accident. When I asked the officer what I can do to appease the law and yet still retain my right to free speech he suggested I go through my posts and remove my ex's name and replace it with "My ex". I have started this process but with over 1000 posts it is going to take time.
The officer said that someone reading my blog might get so upset by what I share that they decide to hunt down my ex and do him harm. I find it hard to believe someone would go to that extent. But there are nutcases in the world. Let me assure you!! I do not want anyone thinking I would approve of any harm coming to my ex. He really is not worth it!!
I am far past any anger, I am at; meh!
The man has taken enough of my time. This is not about him, it is about me raising awareness about a very serious issue that affects 1 in 4 women in North America and 1 in 3 women globally.
According to my ex every woman he has ever been involved with is a psycho bitch C&%* and he has changed because he has found his soulmate.
Personally, I had never been in an abusive relationship prior to him and I did not go running to another man to heal me after him. I chose to find out what happened to me, work on myself and educate myself so that it never happened again to me and so I could educate others.
So that is what I intend to continue doing.
Namaste
Carrie
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How very true,been there,done that!!
xx
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Great quotes, Carrie 🙂
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thank you ..needed this today
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I LOOOOVE the second quote the MOSTEst! Xxx
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I think my fav was the last one
Treat a woman in such a way that other women are jealous of HER!!
Thanks guys for stopping by!
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These are great! Thanks for posting them.
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Greenblades thanks for stopping by and commenting!
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Have you read that book ‘Why Does He Do That?’ by Lundy Bancroft.
It helped me decode my Narcissist’s emotional abuse.
I Highly recommend it. The author worked with men who were physically and or emotionally abusive for years and I was surprised to see every tactic my Narcissist used to control, and disrespect me in the book, and learned that it was his value system, which is pretty much condoned by the media, which allowed him feel it was ok to do what he was doing in order to get control and avoid responsibility.
The last quote reminded me of my N. Because he wanted me t be jealous of other women AND have other women be jealous of me. Essentially, he likes to play women off of each other. Which was also in the book. I highly encourage EVERY WOMAN to check this book out.
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AnnStacy, thank you for the suggestion. If it helped you I am sure it will help others.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing that.
Hugs
Carrie
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Reblogged this on obeyme15.
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There are moments when you realize you may have hurt another, not from intent but because the things in life that you both desired seemed to take separate paths. Or that the love you thought you felt was not fully the love it should of been. Or you had unrealistic expectations of yourself or of the other person. It does not make you a bad person. It simply makes you a flawed human. And I for one am flawed.
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Lonelyheart,
I used to say to my ex all the time. There is no crime in falling out of love with someone. If you don’t love me any more I will go away, I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. The crime is when you know a person loves you and you don’t love that person yet you don’t leave, you stay and blame the other person, tell them that you love them but they have to change this or that and it is never good enough. THEN you are wrong. I have broken a few hearts in my day, you fall out of love or the other person loves you more than you love them, shit happens and it hurts but the person moves on. With a narcissist they systematically destroy the person they say they love, they use emotional, mental, physical and financial abuse to literally destroy a person. That is not simply “falling out of love”.
Thanks for commenting lonelyheart
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you have no idea how baddly i needed those words in this moment.
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lonelyheart, glad I could help
Hugs
Carrie
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