Almost daily I receive email or messages on one of my other social media from a victim of narcissistic abuse requesting to speak with me privately.
As much as I would love to be independently wealthy and able to help everyone free of charge I just can not.
I don't have any secrets that I only share privately, everything I know about narcissists I share here for free. But if you feel you need one on one consultation I can be reached at reimerc@outlook.com to make arrangements for personal, private support for a fee.
Please email me to discuss rates and what your needs are. I look forward to working with you on your journey back to the land of the living! There is life and light after the narcissist, I promise!!
Talk to you soon.
It has been brought to my attention by the police that my blog may incite violence. I want to make it perfectly clear that my intention was never one of revenge or violence against my ex. I have ensured to not put his full name in the blog and have used his first name or initials. Anyone can do a Google search on his name or business name and my blog will not appear anywhere in the search results. Interestingly enough his ad looking for sex does show up.
I do not advocate revenge, a narcissist can always "one up you" in the revenge department because those with a conscience can not even think of the things a narcissist can and a narcissist must win at any cost.
So why do I have this blog? Like the police officer said, "Most victims who are fearful of their abuser try to avoid making him angry."
My reply was; You are right and the silence of the victim perpetuates the problem of domestic abuse and enables the abuser to continue. I promised myself that if I survived what I was going through I would spend the rest of my days raising awareness and sharing my experience in hopes I saved even one woman from suffering like I did. I refer to my personal experience because I want to be totally honest and open, which makes the people who come to my blog comfortable enough to share their experiences and know they are not crazy. I thought I was crazy, most victims do. I wanted to show that they are not alone and they are not crazy.
My blog is not technical, I am not a counselor or mental health professional in any way. I am a survivor of domestic abuse by someone I consider to be a psychopath/narcissist. I had no idea what had happened to me, I have shared every step of my recovery and every bit of information I have found on narcissists and psychopaths; good and bad, in hopes it helps someone else. I blog in hopes of ending violence, NOT inciting violence!
The police officer was very understanding, I wish I would have spoken someone like him years ago.
I am all about not breaking the law, I didn't make it to almost 60 with a clean record by accident. When I asked the officer what I can do to appease the law and yet still retain my right to free speech he suggested I go through my posts and remove my ex's name and replace it with "My ex". I have started this process but with over 1000 posts it is going to take time.
The officer said that someone reading my blog might get so upset by what I share that they decide to hunt down my ex and do him harm. I find it hard to believe someone would go to that extent. But there are nutcases in the world. Let me assure you!! I do not want anyone thinking I would approve of any harm coming to my ex. He really is not worth it!!
I am far past any anger, I am at; meh!
The man has taken enough of my time. This is not about him, it is about me raising awareness about a very serious issue that affects 1 in 4 women in North America and 1 in 3 women globally.
According to my ex every woman he has ever been involved with is a psycho bitch C&%* and he has changed because he has found his soulmate.
Personally, I had never been in an abusive relationship prior to him and I did not go running to another man to heal me after him. I chose to find out what happened to me, work on myself and educate myself so that it never happened again to me and so I could educate others.
So that is what I intend to continue doing.
Namaste
Carrie
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Happy Birthday! 🙂 I sincerely believe that I have learned more from my screw ups than by my successes. And no body could be a better teacher of what not to do than our own crazy selves.
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janyceresh, thank you, yes you are right, we can be our own worse enemy but as long as we learn from it we are still winning.
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I always say , when asked what it is that I want out of life ( and and am more than half way through it too ) I have absolutely NO clue what it is I want, just know what I don’t want. I have a feeling the best part of the journey is the second half 🙂 Hell, at least this far into it , we are well prepared for almost anything and have been hurt enough to really appreciate the “good things”. , to smile more, pray more ( and mean them ) and appreciate “life” in a way we could not have in the first half.
Here’s to experience and learning from it! Cheers!
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Ellie, like I said a few comments ago. It doesn’t take much to make me happy on my birthday any more, just not having some asshole trying to ruin it is a gift in itself! and You are so right I have such a new appreciation for life that I don’t think would have been possible if not for the trials and tribulations of the 1st half of my life.
Lesson learned with no intention of ever taking a refresher course!
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Well, they may not be lining up to your door for you to impart the meaning of life, but judging by the amount of comments you do receive you do have a lot that are lining up in your comments section to share with you their experience, and letting you know that your blog and what you write (have written) about has had a profound effect on them, giving another person a way to deal with the same/similar things that you have gone through and experienced, and possibly empowering them with being able to find their own voice and maybe allowing them to fight back for the purpose in life again. At least that is how I view it from my point-of-view. I think that is the most profoundly positive thing you have done, and probably scares the pants off of he who is just pathetic (Hey! If you are reading this; you are still an asshole!), as well as many more.
Mind you, I am only speculating since I am only seeing it from my viewpoint from my side of the screen.
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Michael, as always you put a big smile on my face! Thank you for that lovely comment. I have met so many wonderful people through this blog and I think it goes both ways, I have received so much from it, it;s hard to imagine I have given back as much as I have gotten, but it is gratifying to know that I have made a positive difference in people’s lives. And your point of view is always smack on the truth from my experience. Ha ha yeah JC still pays a visit once in a while, I have a tracker on the blog so I know when he comes in. He can’t comment because I blocked him but he can still read. Three years later and so damned happy with his new life. go figure, some people just can’t let go I guess.
Hugs to you and your mom and family
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