I don’t have long, I am having my mother for the day and have preparations to do but I wanted to pop in and wish everyone a very Happy Mother’s Day!!
I thought the above Proverb was rather fitting seeing as when a narcissist opens his mouth lies and cruelty is on his tongue.
I know there are some of you who are feeling lonely or missing the N today. It is natural to wish for the story book, Brady Bunch family holidays that we all feel we are missing. My ex husband used to take Kris to buy me a card and he would send flowers or something every year on my birthday and Mother’s Day; it was nice, it was nice of him to do it. A narcissist will never do that kind of thing, not unless he is in the love bombing stage.
In my experience every single occasion was ruined by JC’s refusal to acknowledge the holiday in any way. It was like he went out of his way to RUIN the holiday not just ignore it. I could have handled ignoring it, some people just don’t like buying gifts etc. I don’t need a bunch of flowers etc if the guy is good to me all year long that is more important to me than expensive gifts because it he should.
I think we are our own worst enemy when it comes to special occasions; we envision how wonderful everyone else’s day is and we are alone, we want to have fun, feel special, if its our birthday we want it to be special and people to make a big deal about it and if it doesn’t happen we are miserable. We set ourselves up to be miserable by dwelling on the fact that we don’t have a partner who would make our day special. Nothing is going to make the day special if you are in the early stages of leaving an N so you are best to just go with the flow, make the best of it and hope the N doesn’t find a way to ruin it.
This mother’s day look at your kids and thank the good Lord they are healthy, you are free to heal and much better days are ahead of you. You are missing a healthy relationship, but you never had a healthy relationship. You might someday though now that the N is out of your life, the possibilities are endless for good things to come into your life. The sky is the limit.
So celebrate you, and your wonderful kids and pamper yourself.
Much love to you all.