“Life is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it as it is, is the only way of being happy. – Jennie Jerome Churchill
There is always something to be thankful for if we force ourselves to to look outside of our pain. Yes we may be hurting so badly we can barely move but what good does it do us to wallow in self pity and make everyone who crosses our path sorry they did?
Usually if you face the day as a new day, free of the pain from yesterday and worry of tomorrow; just as a day, one day, you can get through the day much happier and the people around won’t run for cover when they see you coming. You were a victim, you must remember you are no longer a victim so you can lose the victim, “I am helpless to stop the pain” mentality. He controlled your emotions, as in past tense; he no longer defines your worth, or your moods. You control your life now, so take that control and do something positive today. Smile at a stranger, do a random act of kindness, call an old friend just to say hi and not talk about yourself as them how they are and really listen.
Remember, you are a survivor, try staying in the moment just for today.