I love love love this post. I had to force myself to not overthink it. I know one truth for myself that has helped me the most in my healing, Self acceptance. I always had confidence, I was strong, decisive, “in control” of my emotions and my life. It was not until I was trying to heal from the wospos that I realized there is a huge difference between confidence and self acceptance and it is in self acceptance that I have found inner peace. Not perfection, not knowing everything all the time, not making the best decisions all the time but the acceptance that I won’t always make the right decisions, that I will make mistakes and that I am only human and that is ok. That is where I found peace.
“When you accept yourself and all your flaws, you don’t particularly need to focus on self-esteem per se. You focus, instead, on being as good as possible at what you actually do. You may have a positive sense of self, but you don’t blow your sense of self-importance up out of proportion. If you make a mistake, or if someone criticizes you, it’s not the end of the world. You’re the first one to admit that you’re not perfect and you know that there will be days that don’t work out quite the way you’d have liked.” – Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., What a Narcissist Needs is More, not Less, Self Love.
I have to confess that the only reason I chose to read the article – What a Narcissist Needs is More, not Less, Self Love – is because I found the title irritating, especially the first…
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