Sharing Your Pain


I watched a Tedx Talk tonight that I found interesting. For those of us who have experienced a person’s eyes glaze over when you start to share what you have been through. I think we have all figured out that when most people ask you how you are, they really don’t want to know.

They don’t want you to be honest, unless it is to say, “Fine thank you.”


I enjoyed this woman, she is a very good speaker. If you notice she does what all good speakers do, she pauses, talks slowly, and takes her time, plus she knows her material well.

Here is her video

6 thoughts on “Sharing Your Pain

  1. Peter Wells aka Countingducks

    I certainly think that “glazed eye” experience is especially wounding. I also always horrified when the abusers acts are explained away by the “He wasn’t having a very good time” or “He was only young you know” or whatever. Cruelty is cruelty, and bullying has no justification ever. Your strong voice on the subject is needed now more than ever in my opinion


  2. safirefalcon

    I love the idea of naming the fear to disempower it. Lots to think about in that one statement. (From the video.)

    Re: the quote by Brene Brown though (and I love Brene Brown btw) I don’t think empathy is necessary a choice. I see it as a type of emotion and those aren’t always choices, especially when speaking of empathy in the context of narcissism. That’s not to say that everyone who’s eyes glaze over when telling of an experience is a narc.

    But pertaining to narcs, their lack of empathy isn’t really a choice is it? Serious question.

    They do however have a choice how to be and ‘act’ when told about something that could invoke an empathic response from someone who isn’t a narcissist. They could pretend to care or they could do what would be easier and make it clear that they don’t.

    I know this post doesn’t necessarily have to do with narcissism or NPD but when I read your blog it’s where my mind goes. Lol.


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      SafireFalcon, you asked a good question, one that I have thought about a lot. Is empathy a choice. Maybe I will do a post on it because this could get long. LOL going to write a post right now, thanks for the idea.

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