Almost daily I receive email or messages on one of my other social media from a victim of narcissistic abuse requesting to speak with me privately.
As much as I would love to be independently wealthy and able to help everyone free of charge I just can not.
I don't have any secrets that I only share privately, everything I know about narcissists I share here for free. But if you feel you need one on one consultation I can be reached at reimerc@outlook.com to make arrangements for personal, private support for a fee.
Please email me to discuss rates and what your needs are. I look forward to working with you on your journey back to the land of the living! There is life and light after the narcissist, I promise!!
Talk to you soon.
It has been brought to my attention by the police that my blog may incite violence. I want to make it perfectly clear that my intention was never one of revenge or violence against my ex. I have ensured to not put his full name in the blog and have used his first name or initials. Anyone can do a Google search on his name or business name and my blog will not appear anywhere in the search results. Interestingly enough his ad looking for sex does show up.
I do not advocate revenge, a narcissist can always "one up you" in the revenge department because those with a conscience can not even think of the things a narcissist can and a narcissist must win at any cost.
So why do I have this blog? Like the police officer said, "Most victims who are fearful of their abuser try to avoid making him angry."
My reply was; You are right and the silence of the victim perpetuates the problem of domestic abuse and enables the abuser to continue. I promised myself that if I survived what I was going through I would spend the rest of my days raising awareness and sharing my experience in hopes I saved even one woman from suffering like I did. I refer to my personal experience because I want to be totally honest and open, which makes the people who come to my blog comfortable enough to share their experiences and know they are not crazy. I thought I was crazy, most victims do. I wanted to show that they are not alone and they are not crazy.
My blog is not technical, I am not a counselor or mental health professional in any way. I am a survivor of domestic abuse by someone I consider to be a psychopath/narcissist. I had no idea what had happened to me, I have shared every step of my recovery and every bit of information I have found on narcissists and psychopaths; good and bad, in hopes it helps someone else. I blog in hopes of ending violence, NOT inciting violence!
The police officer was very understanding, I wish I would have spoken someone like him years ago.
I am all about not breaking the law, I didn't make it to almost 60 with a clean record by accident. When I asked the officer what I can do to appease the law and yet still retain my right to free speech he suggested I go through my posts and remove my ex's name and replace it with "My ex". I have started this process but with over 1000 posts it is going to take time.
The officer said that someone reading my blog might get so upset by what I share that they decide to hunt down my ex and do him harm. I find it hard to believe someone would go to that extent. But there are nutcases in the world. Let me assure you!! I do not want anyone thinking I would approve of any harm coming to my ex. He really is not worth it!!
I am far past any anger, I am at; meh!
The man has taken enough of my time. This is not about him, it is about me raising awareness about a very serious issue that affects 1 in 4 women in North America and 1 in 3 women globally.
According to my ex every woman he has ever been involved with is a psycho bitch C&%* and he has changed because he has found his soulmate.
Personally, I had never been in an abusive relationship prior to him and I did not go running to another man to heal me after him. I chose to find out what happened to me, work on myself and educate myself so that it never happened again to me and so I could educate others.
So that is what I intend to continue doing.
Namaste
Carrie
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Hi Carrie,
I thought this was an amazing poem and could share here. I’m unsure of the author but believe everyone can relate and it will hopefully inspire as well.
You said we were soul mates
And I wanted to believe
In the story being weaved.
But while gazing
Into the pools of my eyes
You needed the reflection of love
To fill the abyss within
The insatiable darkness
Consuming the light given
Offering only faint shadows
In return.
Yet your twisted vines
Took root in my heart
And I had been groomed
To be a gardener
Of hollow and wounded landscapes.
So I clung
To every glimmer of sun
That seemed to struggle through clouds
That never wept
And never fully thawed
The frost from the soil
Yet still tantalized
When I stood on the edge of defeat
With the allusion
Of what the seeds could become.
And I kept tilling the earth
Exuding warmth with my efforts
Securing fragile tendrils
With caring limbs
Giving nourishment
From my internal spring.
But the promise of buds
Did not flower
From your stunted boughs
For the parched ground
Could not be slaked
And the thirsty spasms of your vines
Pierced me with their thorns
But you did not notice I was bleeding
My life slowly seeping
Until I was a shadow of my self.
They say love heals all wounds
And this is a lesson hard won.
I am no longer tending your landscape.
I am tending my garden instead.
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Thank you for sharing that! The person has obviously been involved with an N. If anyone knows the author please let me know so I can give credit where credit is due.
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