There is a powerful blog I love, it’s written by a woman named Kim and from the first time I found her site I was pulled in by her passion, pain and powerful words. She writes about domestic abuse as the sister of a woman, Kay; murdered by her abusive husband. The first time I visited I stayed for hours and cried buckets. Anyone who doubts it could be them, needs to read this blog.
Kim writes with raw emotion and you can’t help but feel her pain. Her sister Kay left behind two boys, parents that loved her and of course her sister Kim. Kim has done so much for the cause of ending domestic abuse, organizing walks, making videos and sharing from her soul in hopes of educating women so no more women die at the hands of the man they love.
So many times when I tell victims I hope they download the safety plan I offer at the top of the blog they will say, “Oh he has only ever been verbally abusive, I don’t think he would ever hurt me.” I have one thing to say to that. He has never killed you before, but you have never really left him before either. You don’t get a warning when someone wants to kill you, they don’t advertise it, if they did there wouldn’t be any murders because what person in their right mind would be in their company if they knew the person was going to kill them.
I consider myself lucky and feel that maybe God kept me safe so I would warn the rest of you, because I was stupid and kept telling myself it would never happen to me and then near the end after his sister told me she was afraid to be with me because she feared being killed with me, I still stayed. I didn’t even care any more, I thought that if he did kill me it would end my suffering, I didn’t think I could leave any other way. I didn’t think anyone would really care if I was dead and if I left him I would be broke and heart-broken. I didn’t want to hurt any more, I had gotten to the point of not caring how the pain stopped as long as it stopped.
Believe me, there are people who care, people who love you and will be destroyed if you die, you have children who need you, parents a sibling, you have a life to live; don’t let the son-of-a-bitch win. Be safe!!
Please stop by Kim’s site, My Inner Chick, she has a powerful post today and check out the link to the video of her sister filmed just days before her husband killed her. Oh!! and take tissues.