I read an excellent article today on how the narcissist/psychopath will alienate the children from the victim. The psychopath knows that is the one way he/she can cause the deepest wounds and the most emotional devastation and it is almost impossible to prove if the psychopath is cunning enough and most of them are. As the article states, it starts long before the relationship ends, the psychopath starts when the children are young and brainwashes them their whole life, subtly, playfully, is ways the victim sounds like an idiot when they try to explain it to anyone who doesn’t know what a narcissist is like.
The victim, as with everything to do with the narcissist feels helpless and revictimized by society, family, friends and the people who are supposed to be helping her, the legal system, social services, and their own children. I am so thankful I never had a child with my ex,
I personally know of a woman about my age who is the daughter of one of my mom’s friends, (the fact that this woman is going through what she is has validated my experiences with my ex to my mother). Her ex has managed to make her children think she is a psycho and they will have nothing to do with their mom at all and she is devastated by it. There is a restraining order on her so she has no recourse but to let it go and hope that someday her children see the truth.
Here is the article if for no other reason than to get the word out there and to let other parents they are not alone. I know my dad tried to alienate me and my brother from my mom and although it worked for awhile when we were younger (more so on my brother because he was a boy and I was more aware of what was going on in the house and once I pulled away and stood up to my dad he started telling my brother I was “spinny” )
It is power of suggestion is amazingly effective, a narcissist is so convincing and sure of himself, never admitting to any wrongdoing with such conviction and can play the victim better than the victim himself it is very hard for the true victim to get anyone to believe them.
It disgusts me, the damage these assholes cause to not only the victim but the children they deny a mother who loves them.