I Love Analogies And I Have a Couple For You Today

My friend and I have been taking our dogs to a local river, Suicide Creek; and the dogs love it! It is so beautiful, peaceful, the water is cold, clear, green and you can see all the rocks on the bottom so it is clean. It is glacier water or from the snow melt off. There are sand bars, boulders in the middle of the river, worn smooth from the water flowing over them for decades. Drift wood washed smooth by the water, that I can’t help but collect because they end up in such cool shapes and I love how nature transforms things into something unique and beautiful.

And therein lies my analogy for today.

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Stella and her momma, Kya found something interesting. The river is really low right now because we didn’t have much snow, even in the higher levels and not our usual rain either.











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Stella swimming out to fetch a stick. The other dogs won’t swim but that is where Stella shines and comes into her own. She can’t run fast but she is greased lightening in the water. Part Lab with webbed toes, the body fat to handle the cold water and strength to fight the current. PLUS it is the one and only time she is not afraid!!! She bounds into the water for the stick and if it sinks she won’t give up. She has scared me more than once when she wouldn’t come back because she was looking for the stick.

Stella swims out and the other dogs wait on the shore and then she passes it off to them like a relay race. Such a sweet soul my little has.

Stella swims out and the other dogs wait on the shore and then she passes it off to them like a relay race. Such a sweet soul my little girl has. When my son got his dog back after two weeks he said, “Where is my little pork sausage? she lost weight” She was so busy all the time playing! Stella didn’t eat for 3 days after Kya left she missed her so much.

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I am so blessed to live 5 minutes away from this kind of beautiful nature. I swear I live in some of the most breathtaking country in the world. Later in the day Mai, my neighbor threw the stick and it went out too far into the fast water. Stella went in after it and got swept away by the current. I was ready to jump in and rescue her but she got the stick and made it back to shore. The next stick she was right back in there swimming in the rough water. Which brings me to the first analogy. Stella is afraid of everything, but she knows she blows all the other dogs away with her swimming. She shines when she swims. She doesn’t even try to run after a ball when she plays with GG because she knows she won’t get it. We all have that something special we do better than anyone else, we all have our moments to shine.

I was walking along soaking up the beauty around me lost in thought. My thoughts were:

The river has obviously changed course over the years, like our lives; it can flow through the same path for decades and then something will happen. There will be an exceptionally heavy rainfall or snow and the river will overflow its banks and alter its course. it can happen in the blink of an eye. I have seen where someone owned a home nowhere near the river and the next day they had riverfront property. Or someone who had river front and then had nothing. Life is like that, it can alter course in a heart beat. It might bring devastation with it, but over time where the river used to run fills in with greenery, the altered river leaves behind a treasure trove of drift wood and rocks for people like me to collect and pack home, it leaves behind little plots of sandy beach for people to cool and sun themselves in summer.

A river has its rapids, and calm eddies, it gets wider and narrow in spots but it keeps flowing, and it is always beautiful. A tree ripped out of the soil when the river changed course sits roots exposed; over time the river rubs the roots smooth and washes all the dirt away, the sun bleaches the wood and it becomes something totally different, but beautiful all the same, and now it is something unique, something weathered by life is transformed into a piece of art by nature.

I can’t help but feel energized when I go to the river and look at life through a more positive lens. Life may batter me, my life may get knock off the course I had planned but somehow I will carry on and the end result will be someone who had their rough edges smoothed out, someone who was challenged and made it through, just as beautiful as I ever was only more interesting and unique; not like everyone else.

And to be perfectly honest, I have never wanted to be just like everyone else. I am not the kind of person who goes with the latest fads, if everyone else is doing it I will make sure I don’t do it or wear it. It only makes sense that my life would not stay on course either.





18 thoughts on “I Love Analogies And I Have a Couple For You Today

  1. Chris

    Very insightful & motivational In a comforting sort of way…… the river analogy. On more than a few levels….. the dogs too. It is often said that dogs take on the personality of their owner. So, your description of Stella and her sweet soul is more likely than not a tribute to yourself as well. Your blog is Special. I say that because the information, understanding and support that is offered….. is unrivaled and offered to all who are fortunate to find their way here. Reading about personality disorders with clinical definitions and examples cannot hold a candle to what we found in your blogosphere. ……..I don’t recall how I clicked my way to you, but doing so is/was the turning point. I never identified my spouse as a narcissist and was completely confused, shocked, indignant at the treatment (that I now can identify as the discard/devalue phase). How a 16+ year relationship and the bond of parenthood was apparently meaningless………I couldn’t wrap my head around it. Wanted/needed answers. Simple answers….. truth in intentions….I didn’t recognize the behavior and couldn’t get past ignoring obligations and responsibilities to end a relationship with dignity, especially because minor children were involved…….. joke was on me….30 months of chaos and confusion and absolute bullshit….where I unwittingly supplied major narc supply and was easily manipulated into situations where my buttons were expertly pushed and I was yo-yo’d into acting crazy and being pointed at while it happened. She was good……… long story short- w/o finding my way here I would have never known what I was/am dealing with………. it is you and your sweet angel like soul who offers sooo much to people who need your help. Your special quality: (one of many, I’m sure) is in communicating and drawing people to you who need your help. Only the sweetest of souls could help heal people you’ve never met all over the world. The Compassion, caring, understanding, education, healing and general help you offer is nothing short of tremendous. I could drain the dictionary of superlatives and it wouldn’t be enough…..

    I love dogs too….. miss my sweet souled angel, Lola…. always recognized something special about that dog….. not sure what was special about her- her personality & quiet toughness. She was a big dog, seemingly always having medical issues…. couldn’t/wouldn’t run for anything, but an alpha dog that wasn’t an alpha dog. The dog an alpha dog wouldn’t bother. She lived to be 15. Still have her lil buddy, Jules, who is 15 now…… learned that clichés are true: puppy face, looks like she didn’t age at all for first 12-13 years…. not a particularly big dog, not small either. 50-60 lbs….” its not the size of the dog in the fight, its the size of fight in the dog”. Lola never spent a day in her life on a leash….90lb mutt Jules was a scrawny mutt compared. Lola sounded like a bear when she barked….one time she cornered an injured bird while chasing it in the yard…… after cornering it, she walked away….. Jules?? she will retire undefeated vs German Sheppard, Pit bulls, rottweilers……about 10 quick fights… no growling, no barking….. quick whining and squealing though…. fights were over before they started…. never messed with a small dog… bunch of squirrels, opossums and other like critters all met an untimely demise thanks to Jules. All big dogs and rough breeds she fought at a moments notice….. undefeated. Jules was scared of her own shadow, scared of thunder, scared of water, rain, fireworks…… as skiddish as they come…. but kicked a bunch of ass…. as a result, always had her on a leash… those fights were all unpredictable situations…. you an learn from dogs for sure. With Lola, we learned they have bad breath and would be as loyal as the day is long, unconditional love and companionship.

    That’s enough about my dogs….
    Just know that you are greatly appreciated for all that you do.. Thank you, from all of us.

    Its a tremendous thing to think about…… the impact YOU have on people. The way you positively affect our lives…… at such a crucial time in our lives too…… then you throw in the river analogy for perspective.

    You’re a great person. I’m lucky to have found your help.

    P.S. I’m gonna email something to you I came across a long, long time ago….. managed to keep a copy of it for long time. ‘The 10 commandments of dog owners’…….


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      Chris, wow! I am touched, thank you so much. I don’t even know what to say, maybe just thank you,.
      I will look for your email.
      I had a Shar-pei who was dog aggressive. He was my buddy and the dog that was with me right through all the stuff with James, living out of my truck and he was so protective of me. he would have died for me I know. I never had to kill a spider the whole time I had him. He killed anything that skittered, slithered or crawled. If there was a rat, mouse, opossum he killed it. If he wandered off and refused to come when I called all I had to do was jump up and down and scream like I saw a spider and he would come running, nose to the ground looking for a spider.
      I was told to put him down when he was a pup and told to keep him alive was cruel, he was in so much pain he couldn’t use his hind end. I couldn’t do it without trying to save him first and I put him on a vegetarian diet and long story short he was a beautiful specimen of a dog, so proud and regal, I always got compliments on him and he lived to be 8 years old. I was told he wouldn’t see 2, so I got 6 more years and he had a good life.I had to put him down last year when he got really sick and I still miss him but Stella is so much easier. I had to be so vigilant with Kato and other dogs but Stella doesn’t have an aggressive bone in her body and it does make life easier when walking etc.
      My son hand picked Stella out for me, his dog is the momma and he gave me Stella for Christmas a year ago. He would have kept her himself if I hadn’t taken her. She was born with a good nature but for sure a person’s personality rubs off on the dog too.

      I am so glad you have found my site so beneficial, it really makes it all worth while to know I am helping people.


      1. Chris

        Finding your sight beneficial is the understatement of the year, in my book! I toiled in confusion NEEDING answers, NEEDING to be dealt with fairly and straight forward….all the stonewalling and stalling and silent treatment with so much at stake just didn’t make sense to me. At one point, I knew I had to accept not getting answers…..that was a long time ago…18 months or so. Much easier said than done. Not only was that difficult to realize, but the worse part was it left me vulnerable to the manipulation of energy……stealing every positive vibe away and discarding it…leaving battered, beaten and thoroughly at her mercy to give up the narcissistic supply at a moments notice. Now, thanks to your insights and blogs and awareness they’ve imparted upon me, I HAVE MY ANSWERS. Understanding what I’ve been going through and our personalities at work, and the definitions of the actions I’ve experienced gave me the knowledge necessary to battle back…..to get back to living. I wanted/needed closure…..to grieve the divorce, that is what was being kept from me. Keeping me on a tether…….I failed to see clearly what I see now… What I’ve learned about people, relationships and personalities over the last 2 1/2 years (particularly recently….last few months) has given me the wisdom to grow as an individual. Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you wanted. Wisdom is learning from others experience. Your blog, the information, education, awareness, support and counsel contained within it is the Closure and Answers I needed to get through the stages of grief and focus on living again. Its been so long since I’ve lived regularly….working, achieving, earning, living, enjoying and generally moving forward…..Like I’ve been in a vacuum. I definitely feel the tide has turned…….. Pat yourself on the back. You deserve it. It is a remarkable ability to help people with your words of encouragement and enlightenment……It’s a true blessing to be able to positively impact a persons life when they need it most……Not just my life, my kids, now 7 & 8….get to see a life lesson in person…..Dealing with the ups and downs of life. Chinese proverb: Man falls down 7 times, gets up 8 times. Getting knocked down and counted out isn’t what the focus of the story is….Its getting up, dusting yourself off and overcoming adversity. Life hits hard, you gotta get up and get back in the ring. Life isn’t fair and it isn’t easy. Its not supposed to be. Jewish proverb: Man plans, God laughs.

        Not only will my children benefit from having a stronger version of me back….but, my family and friends who’ve supported me financially & spiritually, who’ve suffered along, err….because of my troubles…..can reclaim the peace in their lives. God Bless all the souls who care enough to help see those of us in despair get past our troubles. You, Carrie, are like Moby Dick in a gold fish bowl, amongst those blessed souls, considering the help you give….Thank you.


  2. HeatherG

    I enjoyed the surreal scenery that, when put with the analogy story, take on extra special meaning.
    The stones/rocks are so neat to see too! – (kinda like what you would say about the seashells in Florida).
    I agree with Carol — fortunate to be surrounded by such natural beauty.

    Carrie, Thank you for sharing!


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      Just like all people have their won beauty so do different places in the world. I would hate to live in Sask it is so flat but I can see the beauty there and many people from Sask say the mountains make them feel claustrophobic. I am sure the seashells in Florida are beautiful. I love the ocean, every time the tide goes out it leaves treasures behind. I love treasure hunts.
      Thank you for commenting


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      Peter, you are always so supportive and complementary, a comment from you always puts a smile on my face. You have been with me through so many ups and downs since you started coming here. I appreciate you so much.
      Big hugs from Canada


  3. healing

    Beautifully written analogy. I try to remind myself, the only constants are, God and change. I pray this experience transforms me into a much better person. Stella Bella swimming is amazing! 🙂 Love fishing, Do people fish there?


    1. Carrie Reimer Post author

      Healing, fishing? I am in the heart of fisherman’s paradise. Surrounded by rivers and lakes. We have the best salmon in the world in BC. I was raised with a fishing rod in my hand on lakes and rivers my whole childhood. My dad was an avid outdoorsman and I was my dad’s shadow when I was little. My mom would insist I wear a dress so she would put pants on me with a dress over top when I went duck hunting or fishing with my dad.
      I always feel centered when out in nature. It probably was my saving grace through a lot of the tough times, it’s hard to not believe in God and a higher power when you are in the middle of nature.
      Thanks for commenting



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