I could not believe what I was hearing on the radio. They were talking about a woman who had been murdered by her boyfriend and the bodies were found in a trailer. I thought I was hearing an update to the murder earlier this week but then they said 3 children were found dead along with their mother in Tisdale Saskatchewan. I found this news story about it.
From what the news is saying, the boyfriend and the mother of the children had an on again off again relationship lately. A good friend of the woman said no one suspected he would do something like this and she had often wished she could find a man like him because he treated his girlfriend so well and loved her so much. Yet a close family member of the woman called him emotionally abusive, jealous and controlling. Steve, the murderer, took pictures of the dead family, mother and 3 children under the age of 9 and sent them to the father of the children via text message. Apparently, the new boyfriend had really resented the fact that the father came to the home to visit the children often.
Sound familiar? super sweet in front of other people yet emotionally abusive, controlling and jealous behind doors, he was never physically violent before, “only” emotionally abusive, jealous and controlling.
Still doubting whether you should stay no contact?
Even if you don’t care if something happens to you, YOU are an adult and you can do whatever you want to do, you can put your life at risk, you can play Russian Roulette all you want, but if you have children; they don’t have a choice and they will suffer with you whatever happens, or die with you. Is anything worth risking your child’s well being? Is this “love” worth your child’s life?
I understand that those of you who have a child with a narcissist/psychopath are scared to death for your child’s safety and I don’t blame you and certainly don’t want to add to your fears and you do have to abide by court ordered child custody agreements and you do have to talk to the narcissist but you don’t have to be his “friend”. You are still far better off and less likely to incur his wrath if you keep it cool and use the “Grey Rock Method” of dealing with him/her. What is more likely to insight his rage is an on again off again relationship.
I can’t help but wonder if the woman would have continued to see him had she ever visited this site and knew she wasn’t crazy, and if she wouldn’t have had a friend telling her that she wished she could meet a wonderful man like that; if thimgs would have been different.
Everyone has to keep speaking out,keep spreading the word about these people so they can’t hide behind their masks and lies any more. Don’t let anyone tell you that you are paranoid, vindictive, or over reacting. If your gut says you are in danger believe your gut, if it is telling you that something is just not right; get out!!