Here we are, Christmas behind us, and we all survived; many of you didn’t think you would, but you did it, you got through it one way or another.
Some people set themselves up to be miserable, projecting how sad they were going to be, which in all honesty, made the weeks leading up to one day of the year; miserable. So instead of being miserable for a day they were miserable for weeks.
In a week we will be bringing in a new year and we have choices to make with regards to how we are going to face New Year’s Eve and 2021. Will you set yourself up for misery, or take responsibility for your own happiness or pain.
I will share in this post one simple step that will help you more than anything else, to heal and find inner peace and happiness. I have one caveat.
You must have gone no contact with the narcissist. That is the one engraved in stone, must do, requirement for healing. For those of you who share children with the narcissist, I’m sorry, it’s going to be more difficult for you, but you have to reduce contact to the bare minimum and if possible communicate through someone else.
So, once you are no contact, have grieved and accepted that you were with a narcissist; and all that other crap a person goes through trying to figure out what happened to them; you are ready to start healing.
And healing starts with you. Changing what you think about, your values, false beliefs, past trauma, past brainwashing. Learning to, live in the now, follow your instincts, protect your bounwaadaries, set your boundaries, figure out what your boundaries even ARE!!
Some people who can help you and made a huge difference in my life are;
Brene Brown – Daring Greatly, Gifts of perfection, Braving the Wilderness. The power of being vulnerable and the effects of shame.
Eckhart Tolle – The Power of Now. Finding inner peace by living in the present with gratitude
Bob Proctor – The Secret among so many other books and videos on the laws of attraction
Oprah Winfrey – Soul Sunday videos on you tube. Being your best self and living an authentic life.
I am 10 years out by and go through spurts of studying self awareness. I am no longer pursuing it in order to heal, I just find I need a refresher once in a while and it is my personal beliefs that we should always strive to be better and it would be a life long journey.
The bonus of concentrating on self awareness is not just healing, but preventing ever going through it again and being a better more authentic you.
You will never be the person you were before the abuse so you might as well be a new improved, more authentic you.
Make 2021 your year to invest in yourself, heal old wounds, and reach your potential. What have you got to lose??!
Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year’s to you all.