Cognitive Dissonance and How It Helps The Victim Of Abuse Stay

Wikipedia describes cognitive dissonance like this: Cognitive dissonance In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort(psychological stress) experienced by a person who simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. The occurrence of cognitive dissonance is a consequence of a person's performing an action that contradicts personal beliefs, ideals, and values; and also occurs when confronted …

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17 Tips For Fighting The Narcissist In Court

In Quora today someone asked for helpful tips for going to court against an abuser. I was able to come up with 17. 1. I always tell victims of abuse to keep a journal, if they don't think they have time or are not “writers”, then simply get a day planner and make notes each …

Another Woman Dies – True Story

My mom was telling me about an accident that happened on Hwy #3 near Hope, BC. Apparently a car had been driving eratically and speeding then crashed into a highways maintenance truck. The car literally broke into hundreds of pieces upon impact. The first people on the scene was a truck load of fire fighters …

What Surprised Me The Most After Leaving The Narcissist

One of the most surprising things about being involved with a narcissist was the total lack of sympathy shown by family, friends, and society in general, even the medical profession has literally laughed when I suggested the stress of prolonged abuse could be responsible for my heart condition. (I know doctors dont like people Googling …

Forgiveness and Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

I commented on a friend's Facebook post that argued people are wrong to tell the victim of a narcissist that they must forgive the narcissist in order to heal. I agreed and called bullshit!! on forgiveness. This was my comment. I think sometimes some good old hatred is needed in order to heal and move …

I Am So Ashamed – Why Am I Missing Him

I received a comment on the blog today from a woman who was confessing she had contacted her ex and didn't understand why she had when she knew what the outcome would be. Why did she continue to torture herself? In an attempt to find answers she had gone to a counselor and afterwards had …