They Can Not Change

I was reading and listening to Dr Robert Hare yesterday and another female expert on domestic violence, and I forget her name now. But she deals with women who have come out of a domestic abuse situation and she quoted Dr Hare and referenced his research.For those of you who don't know who Robert Hare …


Stella Being Stella

She has to be beside me even if she doesn't fit any more. In this pic she has squeezed herself between me and the back of the couch. She is almost as long as I am. She had a hard time breathing with her snout in my arm pit. Gotta have a big mouth to …

The Victim’s Responsibility

I often visit other sites on narcissism, sociopathy, psychopathy, (whatever a person chooses to call their abuser) looking for information and new insight. There is one thing that is said often that I don't quite agree with and that is: that the victim's are co-dependent. I understand that we can only speak with any authority …

Lying and Wishful Thinking

from one year ago. There are a few new women emailing me right now that can benefit from this post

Ladywithatruck's Blog

When I found out JC had moved in with another woman the thing that hit me hardest was; now he was lying to her. Crazy thinking I know but I had clung to those lies for so many years, they gave me hope, were the base for my wishful thinking; without those lies I had to face the truth.

The truth was ugly and I had been avoiding it with a vengeance for at least the last 2 years. The last few years I used to pray he would lie to me, tell me any feeble lie, just anything at all!! so I could lie to myself.

The nights he didn’t come home and didn’t answer his phone I didn’t pace the house any more, I didn’t fly into a rage, I was numb, I just prayed he’d tell me a lie. I had stopped snooping on his phone and…

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