Everyone feels overwhelmed at certain times in their life. Everyone needs to hear, “You can do it”, “I care”, everyone needs a Helping Hand or kind word. Reach out to those in need, you never know the difference it could make in that person’s life or yours. We All have something to give the world, even if it is just a hand to hold, an ear to listen, or a heart to share. You don’t have to change the world, but you just might. As survivors of abuse I feel it is our responsibility to help others going through it and educate the rest of society. The only thing that will end domestic violence is educating people and ending the silence. Silence perpetuates the problem and enables the abuser.
Below is a link to a video I think anyone would appreciate. I watched it this morning and was sobbing by the time I was 1/2 way through.
Some times when we are suffering and our life seems to be in the crapper we get consumed with our problems and our world gets very small. We only see the negative things, we lose faith in a fair and just world and can become bitter and self absorbed.
I have always dealt with my own depression or down times by doing something nice for some else. A random act of kindness not only helps the person I am reaching out to; it never fails to make me feel better. So I guess I do it for selfish reasons, there is always someone that could use a smile, kind word, someone to listen for a few minutes, everyone has their own story, their own hurts and if I take the time to reach out who knows; maybe I made their day a little more bearable.
It has happened to me so many times, there are people walking around in the world who have no idea they were responsible for me making it one more day. When I first started hauling scrap I had days I could barely get out of bed, consumed with grief, self doubt, worried about money and wanting to just give up. I would spend 1/2 my day crying as I drove and then I would pull up to a light and look over at the driver beside me and they’d give me a big smile and a “thumbs up”, or someone on the street would yell out, “Lady Witha Truck, you go girl”. One time a woman walked up to me and told me I inspired her; she has no idea how she changed my life by sharing that. I have so many memories of times, right up to just a few days ago; when someone unwittingly gave me the boost I needed to get through that day.
It takes time, it means you have to stop what you are doing, you have to put yourself out there, risk possible rejection. It means over coming your shyness and own insecurities but try it some time; its an amazing feeling when you give a person recognition, praise. It doesn’t cost a dime but could be what gets that person through that day, week, you could be the person who gets them over the hump to tomorrow and maybe their tomorrow is the day their life turns around. Never think you can’t make a difference in a person’s world.
I try to remember to acknowledge the people who cross my path daily. Things as simple as saying, “Good job !!! Thank you”. “I sure respect you, I could never do that job” “You know that haircut really suits you”, “Thank you, you really went out of your way to help me”.
One time I was in a thrift store in town and the young volunteer at the cash register was telling me she was a single mom of two on welfare, going to school, and trying to make a better life for herself and children. It was raining and she was telling me how hard it was to keep the kids entertained when it rains day after day.
After I left I remembered feeling so overwhelmed with Kris when it would rain, I remembered standing out on the porch and sobbing my eyes out feeling so alone. I had solved the problem by having “Rainy Day Parties”, so I went to work making this young mom a rainy Day party box. I put a coupon for videos, balloons, streamers, party hats, paper plates, napkins, some art supplies, and other party items and a card telling her I admired her, how I had solved the rainy Day blues, and wished her well, then I dropped it off at the store. She had no idea what was in the box but was speechless to receive a gift from a virtual stranger.
It took a bit of effort on my part; the worst part was making myself take the box to her, I was so afraid she’d reject my efforts, think I was silly, but I forced myself. Some times you just have to put yourself out there, you will be helping someone else but the real winner will be you. Try it!!
Here’s a feel good video to maybe inspire you to step out of your own little world and make a difference in the life of someone else.