Where more perfect for a narcissist than the internet? He/she can pretend to be anything they want, pictures? no problem; anyone can take a picture of a house or car and say it is theirs. On the internet a person can tell you anything and what choice do you have but to believe them? There are no guarantees with a face to face meeting either, I( mean James showed me pictures of “his” trucks, his houses, and told me how his past women had used and abused him; taken advantage of his kind giving nature. He was new to the area, how would I ever have known otherwise? If I would have checked his name on the internet, no red flags would have been raised, if you know a person’s user name it might give you some interesting information but I didn’t learn his user names for many years, nor even think to Google them until almost the end of the relationship.
You expect to find them on sites like Plenty of Fish, trolling, looking for an unsuspecting woman to lure into their web but it is especially hurtful and sinister for them to come into a site like this pretending to be a victim themselves and play on the emotions of women who are desperately seeking comfort and answers. Well, I hate to admit it; but feel I must warn everyone here that it has happen on this site. I have received an email from one of the members here telling me she has been harassed by another member. I had my suspicions about this person almost right from the start and even questioned him on why he was coming in under two different names. He came up with a plausible reason and I let it go but I have watched him. Then I got busy with my own problems and haven’t been around near as much. He has been very supportive of a few women in here and so I want to make sure no one else gets sucked in by him into taking the relationship off the net and meeting in person.
This person has been coming in here under the name of “Healing” and I have blocked him and his email address from commenting but that does not block him from reading on the site; unfortunately I do not have that power. I do have the power to see everyone’s IP number and from that can track a person’s exact location. I did it with James and I did it once before when I tracked someone down and got the FBI involved and the FBI showed up at the person’s door the next day. So, to anyone who thinks they can prey on the women in here and hide behind anonymity, you are sadly mistaken and I WILL do everything within my power to keep trolls and narcissists off my blog.
I would appreciate being told privately by email firstname.lastname@example.org if this person has tried to start a relationship off the site with anyone and if anyone has ANY trouble with anyone, please do not hesitate to contact me. My deepest apologies to any one who has been affected by this person.
Please, where ever you go on the net, be extremely careful, to my knowledge this has only happened once before and I picked up on it before any harm was done and I have not seen him on the site since.