You are probably here because you are wondering what the hell happened to you, what happened to what you thought was the love of your life!
I remember thinking when I was in the middle of the roller coaster ride from hell; “If I, a middle aged self reliant, independent woman can end up feeling so defeated and helpless, how would a younger less experienced woman ever survive?”
And after I left with nothing except $5, half a pack of cigarettes, a one day permit on my truck, my dog and everything I owned on the back of my truck with no place to go; I wondered if I had done the right thing, how was I ever going to survive?
When he text messaged me, “Why don’t you just kill yourself. No man is ever going to want a paranoid, suicidal, psycho bitch like you anyway. You made my life hell for 10 years. I have found the love of my life and she is nothing like you.”
I sat with a handful of pills staring at my phone and I made the decision to not only survive whatever had happened to me but thrive and I set out to figure out how I had been reduced to literally nothing. I had no idea where to even start to put myself back together but I knew one thing, I could not do it alone. I needed to be accountable to someone, I did not trust myself to not try to kill myself, so I started this blog. I figured that I could not very well declare to the great internet world that I was going to survive and then give up.
My hope was that some day some woman who was feeling as lost as I was would find my blog and know she was not alone and maybe by sharing my experiences I could change the worst thing that ever happened to me into a positive. Something good had to come out of this pain, it could not be for nothing. I couldn’t live with that.
Little did I know that eventually I would have over 3000 followers and over 3 million hits and reach every corner of the world. Little did I know some day people would call me strong and be sending notes thanking me for saving their life.
It has not been easy, I have had many struggles, all of which can be found in the over 1000 posts here. I share the full journey, the self doubt, the revelations, the mistakes and the victories and hundreds of people have shared their stories in the posts and comments here.
My hope is that you too will find answers and peace amongst my ramblings and that by me sharing you will be spared some of the pain I experienced.
This could be the start of a whole new exciting life for you if you just believe that none of us know how strong we are until we over come what we thought we never could. For two years every night I thought, “I can not do this one more day” and then someone on the blog said they hoped to one day be as strong as I. I thought, “Me strong? every day for 2 years I haven’t thought I would make it through the day.” Then it hit me, the epiphany that, I HAD been doing it for over 720 days. That fact alone was proof I was strong and my attitude changed and I stopped thinking of myself as weak and started to think like a survivor.
This blog is not only about how horrible narcissists are, it is not just a study of what makes a narcissist tick and we aren’t here to remain victims. This blog is much more than that. This blog is about becoming the best you that you can be so that no one can ever intimidate you and manipulate you into believing you are less than, and deserving of abuse. It is not about finding your old self, it is about being the best you that you can be.
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Welcome! please feel free to comment and ask questions, there are many supportive people here on the support forum who have been where you are.
See you inside.